That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Best goddamn response I've seen here.Jippii said:
But I'm sure with the right ammount of "gamez" she could have changed your mind!
:crackup: Now, of course we know that it doesn't work that way: If we're not physically attracted to a girl, there's nothing she could possibly do to change our mind. We take that for granted, because we just know that we're wired like that. So why can't some of you accept that girls work exactly the same way? again,why take something simple and try to turn it into something complex? Rak-X said:Best goddamn response I've seen here.
Seriously, she probably wasn't attracted physically.Simple as that.
Rule no1: Never over-estimate women. Women for the better or worse are extremely simple creatures. Why take something simple and try to turn it into something complex?
If she's not physically attracted, no ammount of "gamez" (be it "inner" or "outer") will change her mind.
But I'm sure with the right ammount of "gamez" she could have changed your mind!
To the OP: You're probably simply not attractive enough to interest attractive girls. "Why is it that a lot of ugly/average guys are so confident and willing to approach girls when it's clear that they're completely out of their league? lol"
Of course, we should all try to look our best when approaching women. But there's limit in how we can physically improve. If you're 5'7 and the girl only gets wet for 6'0 and above guy there's nothing you can do. If she only gets wet for guys that have the V-shape body then there's nothing you can do (since like height, that's determine by your bones). If she only get wets for guys that have the chiseled lower face,then there's nothing you can do...If you have an ugly mug and she only gets wet for handsome etc...see where I'm getting?
Reality says: attractive girls only wants handsome guys.Right there that's nature operating at the most basic level,ensuring that the best elements get together to ensure there's at least a few strong elements within the specy.
Same way most of you guys wouldn't touch an average or a UG girl with a ten-foot pole,these girl don't want anything to do with guys that aren't to their level. It's basic darwinian biology really
Anyway,all this to say: stick to girls that are in the same level as you look-wise and you'll do fine. If any of you still object after that... then you haven't been paying atttention! And I've been talking to some thick headed folks
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Too easy!LittleBigOne said:
... EXPLOIT them to get to the hot ones ....