Help--No ring , no sex!

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

MrCode

Senior Don Juan

Sep 13, 2004

Re: Turn the table on her.

Originally posted by DJoystick DJango
You want a power play ... You are lined up for gold.

You are actually in a position to LJBF her !

Continiue as you always have done around her, and when this ring-sh*t comes up again you simply say :

"Fine by me. Lets just be freinds."

and then treat her like any old friend. Let us know how long she lasts before she will break her own rule.

I second this.

Given her age this is just one of those empty promises people make to themselves, like New Year's resolutions. If you put the pressure on, she will probably buckle.

Still, it may be wise to look for some new "cows" with free milk.

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.