Call her up. Fluff talk. Find out her plans. If one of her days is free be like "I was plannin on [goin' to the mall] [movies] [goin' to a game]." Then invite her along. People don't like being bored. She'll most likely say yess. Then when you are with her run game like a motherfvcker!!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
help needed :) what to do ?
- Thread starter Wee
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Best friends? NAY
Senior Don Juan
IF you have known her alogn time and only talk about nuetral borring stuff then I would probaly not try to hit her up, she probaly doesn't feel it for you. But what I would do is set her up with a friend and tell her to bring a hot friend of hers along for you.
dyce
Don Juan
u should read the bible if u havent already man
not tryna be a smart ass or nothin' but i think, judging from ur post, that ur 'problem' isnt particularly deep
not tryna be a smart ass or nothin' but i think, judging from ur post, that ur 'problem' isnt particularly deep
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Just give up and move on. Never waste your time with girls that arn't interested, there are plenty of them out there....And what are you thinking bring her flowers?!?!?!and question... what to do now ?i had an idea to go to her home with a flower for her (to impress her or something like that
dyce
Don Juan
like i said, read the bible man
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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learn better english then read the bible/self help PUA stuff, and give up on the girl.