"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Help! Need to know what to do tomorrow

silenthill

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Well there is this one girl in my chem class. She is pretty shy and seems to get flustered easily but I have been talking to her for the last couple of weeks. She is also in my chem lab as well. 2 weeks ago in lab she leaned forward to see somthing better and her shoulder was against my chest.

Last weeks lab we were at a table and she was lightly tapping her foot against mine. I don't know if that means anything or not. Last wensday after class I asked her what she was doing on friday she said she had to work. I had to work sat and sun so I couldn't suggest another day. Well tomorrow I'm thinking about asking her again.

If she says she has to work friday then I don't know what I'm going to do becuase I work sat and sunday again. Plus its kind of weird to ask 2 weeks in a row. Any advice? Should I wait till next week? Also should I ask if she is busy friday or should I flat out ask if she wants to do something together?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Talk to her in class, and kino her. Ask her email and her number. After class when you get home, call her up, ask her if she wants to study together tonight. If she says not tonight, tell her you don't know when you'll be awailable again - in which case you'll call her next night or couple night down the road and tell her you have time now.

Come to her place, study, talk, kino. Then watch a movie, cuddle, make out.
 

Good_ol_boy

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unorthodox said:
Who cares. Tell her you want to study with her, at her place.
Unless you want to become her "study buddy", don't do this. Come right out and ask her out!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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silenthill

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Son of a *****! I casually asked her what days shes working this week and she said thurs, fri and sat. I'm working sunday. I guess I'll try again next week.
 

silenthill

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Ok well I was in class today and before class started we were talking, conversation was going good, I was being c+f. She mentioned how she was glad she didn't have to work today. I kept that info in the back of my mind. At the end of class we walk together than it goes like this

me: Hey since your not working tonight, do you want to do something together?
her: (smiles) what do you mean?
me: maybe we could go to the bowling alley and you could kick my ass in a game
her: do you mean like a date?
me: .....well yeah
her: ive got a boyfriend
me: (stunned) thats ok im not the jelous type, kidding
me: so does he go to this school
her: (pause) no he doesn't go to school right now
me: ok thats cool

then we walk to the parking lot together, still talking. she seems like shes happy about somthing

do you guys think the bf is bs? In the two months in class together she has never mentioned anything about it.

oh well at least I got that out of the way. That was the only potential in all my classes. I guess I'm going to have to cold approach around campus
 

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best advice you'll get on this:

IF YOU HAD MORE GIRLS THAT YOU WERE TALKING TO, YOU WOULDNT CARE SO MUCH ABOUT ONE WHO HAS A BF
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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