"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well there is this one girl in my chem class. She is pretty shy and seems to get flustered easily but I have been talking to her for the last couple of weeks. She is also in my chem lab as well. 2 weeks ago in lab she leaned forward to see somthing better and her shoulder was against my chest.

Last weeks lab we were at a table and she was lightly tapping her foot against mine. I don't know if that means anything or not. Last wensday after class I asked her what she was doing on friday she said she had to work. I had to work sat and sun so I couldn't suggest another day. Well tomorrow I'm thinking about asking her again.

If she says she has to work friday then I don't know what I'm going to do becuase I work sat and sunday again. Plus its kind of weird to ask 2 weeks in a row. Any advice? Should I wait till next week? Also should I ask if she is busy friday or should I flat out ask if she wants to do something together?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Talk to her in class, and kino her. Ask her email and her number. After class when you get home, call her up, ask her if she wants to study together tonight. If she says not tonight, tell her you don't know when you'll be awailable again - in which case you'll call her next night or couple night down the road and tell her you have time now.

Come to her place, study, talk, kino. Then watch a movie, cuddle, make out.
 
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unorthodox said:
Who cares. Tell her you want to study with her, at her place.
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Unless you want to become her "study buddy", don't do this. Come right out and ask her out!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Son of a *****! I casually asked her what days shes working this week and she said thurs, fri and sat. I'm working sunday. I guess I'll try again next week.
 
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Ok well I was in class today and before class started we were talking, conversation was going good, I was being c+f. She mentioned how she was glad she didn't have to work today. I kept that info in the back of my mind. At the end of class we walk together than it goes like this

me: Hey since your not working tonight, do you want to do something together?
her: (smiles) what do you mean?
me: maybe we could go to the bowling alley and you could kick my ass in a game
her: do you mean like a date?
me: .....well yeah
her: ive got a boyfriend
me: (stunned) thats ok im not the jelous type, kidding
me: so does he go to this school
her: (pause) no he doesn't go to school right now
me: ok thats cool

then we walk to the parking lot together, still talking. she seems like shes happy about somthing

do you guys think the bf is bs? In the two months in class together she has never mentioned anything about it.

oh well at least I got that out of the way. That was the only potential in all my classes. I guess I'm going to have to cold approach around campus
 
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best advice you'll get on this:

IF YOU HAD MORE GIRLS THAT YOU WERE TALKING TO, YOU WOULDNT CARE SO MUCH ABOUT ONE WHO HAS A BF
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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