"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Help Me With This Kinder Convo

kidkurious

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I got a match with a decent-looking chick on tender.

Here's the convo I started with her so far.

me: hi
girl: hey
me: how's tinder treating you?
girl: not bad. can't complain. you?

I don't know where go from there.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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El Payaso

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Lol. You misspelled Tinder TWICE. Anyway, there should be stuff on her profile that you can go off of. Perhaps stuff she mentioned about what she does for a living, things she likes to do for fun, stuff about her personality. Anything go off that.
 

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El Payaso said:
Lol. You misspelled Tinder TWICE. Anyway, there should be stuff on her profile that you can go off of. Perhaps stuff she mentioned about what she does for a living, things she likes to do for fun, stuff about her personality. Anything go off that.
thanks

**** I didn't realize the typo haha
 

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Never start with Hi on Tinder.
Differentiate yourself and say something funny, or even sexual. Even a horrible pick up line would suffice...
 

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yea your first two lines are terribly boring. Youre going to have to turn it around with something that shows humor and personality.
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I might say something like "F**cking terrible. Keep getting stalked by all these girls. I mean i'm used to it, but still...."

But YMMV, obv dont use that if you're not going to be congruent with it when you keep talking. Once you build a decent level of comfort, you need to number close: "Tinder is so glitchy. Text me: (***)***-****"

Once you get the number, fluff for a few texts and then push for a "non-date" meetup, like coming to hangout at a coffee shop while you get stuff done, or w/e.

Tinder is not an app where you sit there and talk to her for weeks. You need to weed out the bad leads, quickly escalate to a number close and a meetup.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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gravityeyelids said:
something like "F**cking terrible. Keep getting stalked by all these girls. I mean i'm used to it, but still...."
excellent.

I used this.

she replied with: don't worry about me. i'm not a stalker

now what am I supposed to say?
 

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kidkurious said:
excellent.

I used this.

she replied with: don't worry about me. i'm not a stalker

now what am I supposed to say?
You really needa be yourself.
What are you going to do if you actually meet up with her and go out?
 

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CaptainSaveAh0 said:
You really needa be yourself.
What are you going to do if you actually meet up with her and go out?
I'll be on my phone the whole time asking you guys what to do next.

I replied with this:
it's good to know you won't stalk me after I take you out to a nice dinner and never call you back.
 

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what a bad troll
 

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Troll.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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kidkurious said:
I'll be on my phone the whole time asking you guys what to do next.

I replied with this:
it's good to know you won't stalk me after I take you out to a nice dinner and never call you back.
LMAO that kind of implies that she can get a nice free meal out of you
 

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hmm... not sure where to go from here... help me out fellas!

She seems to be responding well, unless I'm totally off (i've been out of the game for years... refer to the date of my previous threads haha)

 
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