Hey DJs, I need a help with a feminist here. Basically, I went to a cafe to meet up with my friends and when I arrived, there were only two spots to sit. One spot would require the two guy friends to both shift over so I could get in (it was a sofa); it was also inconvenient to get to because it was against the cafe wall. The other spot was a chair filled by a chick's purse. I'll call the chick Mary Jane. The spot with the Mary Jane's purse on it was the most natural place for me to sit since nobody would have to move and it was also right in front of me when I arrived at the table. There was no other place to sit or to place a new chair - it was only those two spots.
When I got in, I stood in front of the chair with Mary Jane's purse for two minutes. During the time period, I joined the conversation naturally. It was very obvious that the best place for me to sit was the chair filled by Mary Jane's purse but she didn't move her purse. A joke was also made about the purse filling up the spot so they knew I wanted to sit down. What I didn't do was ask her to move her purse since she knew I wanted to sit there - it was the most obvious spot. In hindsight, maybe this was a mistake to not ask her although it is was obvious she deliberately didn't move her purse? Anyways, after the two minutes, I ended up sitting on the sofa side and the two guy friends moved over just for me.
Fast forward. I leave for the washroom and come back. For me to get back to my seat, it would require the guys to move again. Again, the most natural seat was the chair filled with the purse. Once again, I stood by the chair with the purse for about 5 seconds. She wouldn't move it again. This time around, I moved her purse away WITHOUT ASKING and sat right down on the chair. She gave me this ice cold look when I did that and she seemed a little pissed.
One week later, I meet up with my friends again. Now, Mary Jane is totally all bitc*y against me the entire night. The problem is, I don't really give a sh*t about Mary Jane but I would like to continue to hang out my friends and the other chicks in the group (who she is friends with) without her being an as*hole each time we go out. She is also a total feminist and believes all women should be treated royally by guys.
What should I do?
Abbra
When I got in, I stood in front of the chair with Mary Jane's purse for two minutes. During the time period, I joined the conversation naturally. It was very obvious that the best place for me to sit was the chair filled by Mary Jane's purse but she didn't move her purse. A joke was also made about the purse filling up the spot so they knew I wanted to sit down. What I didn't do was ask her to move her purse since she knew I wanted to sit there - it was the most obvious spot. In hindsight, maybe this was a mistake to not ask her although it is was obvious she deliberately didn't move her purse? Anyways, after the two minutes, I ended up sitting on the sofa side and the two guy friends moved over just for me.
Fast forward. I leave for the washroom and come back. For me to get back to my seat, it would require the guys to move again. Again, the most natural seat was the chair filled with the purse. Once again, I stood by the chair with the purse for about 5 seconds. She wouldn't move it again. This time around, I moved her purse away WITHOUT ASKING and sat right down on the chair. She gave me this ice cold look when I did that and she seemed a little pissed.
One week later, I meet up with my friends again. Now, Mary Jane is totally all bitc*y against me the entire night. The problem is, I don't really give a sh*t about Mary Jane but I would like to continue to hang out my friends and the other chicks in the group (who she is friends with) without her being an as*hole each time we go out. She is also a total feminist and believes all women should be treated royally by guys.
What should I do?
Abbra
