"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I had a date the other day. We went to the bowling alley after leaving a local diner. I had been feeling a little sick the whole day with mild stomach cramps but thought nothing of it and figured it would pass. Things were going really well and after about an hour, we decided to call it a night. I started feeling really nauseated on the way home and eventually I just vomited all over the place in my truck with my date next to me. While I was vomiting, I sh't all over myself. I has shorts on and it was running down my leg. The stench of vomit and sh't was horrible. My date starts screaming as if I'd grown a second head or something.
I had a bad stomach virus and was laid up for a day following this. She did call to see if I was feeling better but the same playful tone in her voice wasn't there. I know this wasn't my finest hour but surely people can get past this. How would you all approach this?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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penkitten

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are u still sick?
eat chicken soup, drink lots of fluids, stay in bed.
if she calls tell her you need a nurse hehe.
 

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Dude, is it so hard to open the door and turn your head to face outside the car when vomiting? I assume you vomited while the car was standing still, not while you were going 60 on a freeway. When I vomit, I never get the crap on me. And I guarantee you if you did that she wouldn't have been as freaked out.
 

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Not to evade the question dude but this is really all dependent on how mature the chick is. If she's bratty superficial twit she'll wig out about it, if she has class/maturity she'll realize everybody gets sick and nobody can control when and where it is gonna happen. She look past it and it won't be a big deal at all. Would you really want to be with a girl that is such a space cadet she can't look past you getting ill anyway?
 

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It's totally understandable, when your sick like that it just happens, you have no control over it (of course you could of turned your head the other way to vomit but, whatever). Don't worry about it, if she can't accept that you were really ill then she's not worth it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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