"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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help me pls to fullfill my new years resolution

saturnalia

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I have no social circle, my life just sucks, so as a new years resolution, I decided to dedicated my free time to daygame

I have absolutely no experience in it, also I have some mild social anxiety, but I think, that`s due to me not having a peer group giving me positive feed-back

so what do you guys recommend me, when it comes do daygame?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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There's enough material on day game. Just need to start event smi-relevant conversations and people will appreciate it and join the banter. Everyone likes to be approached for conversation, even the botches who pretend they can't be bothered.

If you come across a rude person, just say, "well enjoy your day," and walk away. With practice everything will come naturally and you won't have to think or openers.

One big piece of advice: smiles and excitement are contagious along with yawns! Project the positive.
 

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alpha_ash said:
There's enough material on day game. Just need to start event smi-relevant conversations and people will appreciate it and join the banter. Everyone likes to be approached for conversation, even the botches who pretend they can't be bothered.

If you come across a rude person, just say, "well enjoy your day," and walk away. With practice everything will come naturally and you won't have to think or openers.

One big piece of advice: smiles and excitement are contagious along with yawns! Project the positive.
okay, thanks I will check out the DJ bible as well, does it contain information relevant to daygame?

and I`m also "old", I`m 30, is it a positive for women in their 20`s or not?
 

Who Dares Win

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Work on your inner self first, you're a skinny soldier asking for weapons that he cannot master untill he is strong enough to hold them properly.

Work on your look and self confidence first (the two are connected anyway), join the gym and train seriously, this one is mandatory both for look and self confidence reasons, if you have money buy some decent clothes as well.

Once you are your best self you can go into action, if you go in action without being ready you only risk to fail and enter in a negative loop which will make it harder for you to persist.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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