"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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help me pls to fullfill my new years resolution

saturnalia

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I have no social circle, my life just sucks, so as a new years resolution, I decided to dedicated my free time to daygame

I have absolutely no experience in it, also I have some mild social anxiety, but I think, that`s due to me not having a peer group giving me positive feed-back

so what do you guys recommend me, when it comes do daygame?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There's enough material on day game. Just need to start event smi-relevant conversations and people will appreciate it and join the banter. Everyone likes to be approached for conversation, even the botches who pretend they can't be bothered.

If you come across a rude person, just say, "well enjoy your day," and walk away. With practice everything will come naturally and you won't have to think or openers.

One big piece of advice: smiles and excitement are contagious along with yawns! Project the positive.
 

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alpha_ash said:
There's enough material on day game. Just need to start event smi-relevant conversations and people will appreciate it and join the banter. Everyone likes to be approached for conversation, even the botches who pretend they can't be bothered.

If you come across a rude person, just say, "well enjoy your day," and walk away. With practice everything will come naturally and you won't have to think or openers.

One big piece of advice: smiles and excitement are contagious along with yawns! Project the positive.
okay, thanks I will check out the DJ bible as well, does it contain information relevant to daygame?

and I`m also "old", I`m 30, is it a positive for women in their 20`s or not?
 

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Work on your inner self first, you're a skinny soldier asking for weapons that he cannot master untill he is strong enough to hold them properly.

Work on your look and self confidence first (the two are connected anyway), join the gym and train seriously, this one is mandatory both for look and self confidence reasons, if you have money buy some decent clothes as well.

Once you are your best self you can go into action, if you go in action without being ready you only risk to fail and enter in a negative loop which will make it harder for you to persist.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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