Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Completely ignore this. This is her way of trying subtly communicate to you that she thinks she's hot sh1t- there is a very good chance this is her way of saying "I'm so hot, guys won't approach me." I've often heard this from girls who are hot, but don't get approached because they have b1thy attitudes or aloof expressions, and want to project the reason as being "someone else's hang up" when the reality is almost surely that the cause is her own demeanor. I am sorry, but the fact of the matter is hot girls get approached, period. If they aren't getting approach often or at all, it's their attitude, not because they are "too good looking." Never buy into this "myth." Don't take that bait.I actually don't have guys trying to pick me up all the time (although you're close with the emails). I've been told by drunken male friends that I am intimidating.
You: Wow, that's completely ironic. I'm actually starting a cult myself, but with me as the object of worship, and thought you might wanna join. In exchange for your undying devotion and servitude, you'll receive a monogrammed velvet robe, autographed 8x10 photos of me, and a travel-size altar w/candles, so you can even worship me on-the-go. You better hurry though, the openings are filling up pretty quickly."The most creative try I've ever experienced though was this guy who told me that he wanted to start a cult and would I be willing to be the object of worship? I almost died laughing.
MotownMack said:Completely ignore this. This is her way of trying subtly communicate to you that she thinks she's hot sh1t- there is a very good chance this is her way of saying "I'm so hot, guys won't approach me." I've often heard this from girls who are hot, but don't get approached because they have b1thy attitudes or aloof expressions, and want to project the reason as being "someone else's hang up" when the reality is almost surely that the cause is her own demeanor. I am sorry, but the fact of the matter is hot girls get approached, period. If they aren't getting approach often or at all, it's their attitude, not because they are "too good looking." Never buy into this "myth." Don't take that bait.
This isn't the same girl, is it?
The second comment is even more of an attempt to validate her first supposition. She's heard better pick up lines than that, she just liked it cuz it completely supplicated her. She's trying to DHV.
Keeping that scenario in mind, be careful not to validate this one. Be extra ****y with her.
You: Wow, that's completely ironic. I'm actually starting a cult myself, but with me as the object of worship, and thought you might wanna join. In exchange for your undying devotion and servitude, you'll receive a monogrammed velvet robe, autographed 8x10 photos of me, and a travel-size altar w/candles, so you can even worship me on-the-go. You better hurry though, the openings are filling up pretty quickly."
Mavrick said:Do you ever pick up chicks that aren't from the internet?
Ok, well then take special note that she's being a little incongruent here. What to make of that remains to be seen, but guys should watching for signs of being incongruent in females too.No it's not the same girl.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"You let me be the judge of that."My Name is Nobody said:She said
"You seem to have a picture that im this majorly gorgeous woman...i mean...i know Im attractive...but im not a supermodel...so dont have huge expectations, you never know...im short...i have "junk in the trunk" (menaing a big ass) small boobs...so i dunno what your looking for...but there u go...talk later hope you have a good day..."
What can I say to be funny and get the number close?
Thank guys!
The girl you are chatting with is an attention wh0re who is eating you alive by leading you into a maze of circular logic.My Name is Nobody said:"obviously a man with confidence, but not tripping on his own ego...too bad you've ruled me out. oh well..."
Need your help guys what would you say?
Ok, first of all, stop panicking. This is a sh1t test. This is where the AFCs who are doing a little too much acting usually end up thinking they screwed up, and start back peddling to try to appease her. If you do this, you're through.Need your help guys what would you say?
She's set this sh1t test up, but she wants you to pass it. That last bit of text-to me says-"I am interested, but you're turning me off." Most girls when they are sick of you just stop responding. She gets that your confident-that's registered with her- don't beat her over the head with it, move it forward.too bad you've ruled me out. oh well...
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
MotownMack said:One more thing...
If a girl calls you out on your ****y behavior and you get the feeling it's not a good thing, like maybe you've pushed it a little too much (I am naturally ****y, so this happens to me sometimes), never say something like "Girls like confident guys" or anything of that nature. It makes it sound like you're acting a certain way to make an impression on her, or that you're explaining your behavior to her. Don't do either, that's completely incongruent.
When you get this signal, just redirect the conversation to something less volatile, but don't do too much to verify or deny her claim. Brush it off and change it up.
I got a reply from cult lady.. she seems to be turning down the offer to worship me. Unbelievable. :crazy:MotownMack said:Completely ignore this. This is her way of trying subtly communicate to you that she thinks she's hot sh1t- there is a very good chance this is her way of saying "I'm so hot, guys won't approach me." I've often heard this from girls who are hot, but don't get approached because they have b1thy attitudes or aloof expressions, and want to project the reason as being "someone else's hang up" when the reality is almost surely that the cause is her own demeanor. I am sorry, but the fact of the matter is hot girls get approached, period. If they aren't getting approach often or at all, it's their attitude, not because they are "too good looking." Never buy into this "myth." Don't take that bait.
This isn't the same girl, is it?
The second comment is even more of an attempt to validate her first supposition. She's heard better pick up lines than that, she just liked it cuz it completely supplicated her. She's trying to DHV.
Keeping that scenario in mind, be careful not to validate this one. Be extra ****y with her.
You: Wow, that's completely ironic. I'm actually starting a cult myself, but with me as the object of worship, and thought you might wanna join. In exchange for your undying devotion and servitude, you'll receive a monogrammed velvet robe, autographed 8x10 photos of me, and a travel-size altar w/candles, so you can even worship me on-the-go. You better hurry though, the openings are filling up pretty quickly."