When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Completely ignore this. This is her way of trying subtly communicate to you that she thinks she's hot sh1t- there is a very good chance this is her way of saying "I'm so hot, guys won't approach me." I've often heard this from girls who are hot, but don't get approached because they have b1thy attitudes or aloof expressions, and want to project the reason as being "someone else's hang up" when the reality is almost surely that the cause is her own demeanor. I am sorry, but the fact of the matter is hot girls get approached, period. If they aren't getting approach often or at all, it's their attitude, not because they are "too good looking." Never buy into this "myth." Don't take that bait.I actually don't have guys trying to pick me up all the time (although you're close with the emails). I've been told by drunken male friends that I am intimidating.
You: Wow, that's completely ironic. I'm actually starting a cult myself, but with me as the object of worship, and thought you might wanna join. In exchange for your undying devotion and servitude, you'll receive a monogrammed velvet robe, autographed 8x10 photos of me, and a travel-size altar w/candles, so you can even worship me on-the-go. You better hurry though, the openings are filling up pretty quickly."The most creative try I've ever experienced though was this guy who told me that he wanted to start a cult and would I be willing to be the object of worship? I almost died laughing.
MotownMack said:Completely ignore this. This is her way of trying subtly communicate to you that she thinks she's hot sh1t- there is a very good chance this is her way of saying "I'm so hot, guys won't approach me." I've often heard this from girls who are hot, but don't get approached because they have b1thy attitudes or aloof expressions, and want to project the reason as being "someone else's hang up" when the reality is almost surely that the cause is her own demeanor. I am sorry, but the fact of the matter is hot girls get approached, period. If they aren't getting approach often or at all, it's their attitude, not because they are "too good looking." Never buy into this "myth." Don't take that bait.
This isn't the same girl, is it?
The second comment is even more of an attempt to validate her first supposition. She's heard better pick up lines than that, she just liked it cuz it completely supplicated her. She's trying to DHV.
Keeping that scenario in mind, be careful not to validate this one. Be extra ****y with her.
You: Wow, that's completely ironic. I'm actually starting a cult myself, but with me as the object of worship, and thought you might wanna join. In exchange for your undying devotion and servitude, you'll receive a monogrammed velvet robe, autographed 8x10 photos of me, and a travel-size altar w/candles, so you can even worship me on-the-go. You better hurry though, the openings are filling up pretty quickly."
Mavrick said:Do you ever pick up chicks that aren't from the internet?
Ok, well then take special note that she's being a little incongruent here. What to make of that remains to be seen, but guys should watching for signs of being incongruent in females too.No it's not the same girl.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
"You let me be the judge of that."My Name is Nobody said:She said
"You seem to have a picture that im this majorly gorgeous woman...i mean...i know Im attractive...but im not a supermodel...so dont have huge expectations, you never know...im short...i have "junk in the trunk" (menaing a big ass) small boobs...so i dunno what your looking for...but there u go...talk later hope you have a good day..."
What can I say to be funny and get the number close?
Thank guys!
The girl you are chatting with is an attention wh0re who is eating you alive by leading you into a maze of circular logic.My Name is Nobody said:"obviously a man with confidence, but not tripping on his own ego...too bad you've ruled me out. oh well..."
Need your help guys what would you say?
Ok, first of all, stop panicking. This is a sh1t test. This is where the AFCs who are doing a little too much acting usually end up thinking they screwed up, and start back peddling to try to appease her. If you do this, you're through.Need your help guys what would you say?
She's set this sh1t test up, but she wants you to pass it. That last bit of text-to me says-"I am interested, but you're turning me off." Most girls when they are sick of you just stop responding. She gets that your confident-that's registered with her- don't beat her over the head with it, move it forward.too bad you've ruled me out. oh well...
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
MotownMack said:One more thing...
If a girl calls you out on your ****y behavior and you get the feeling it's not a good thing, like maybe you've pushed it a little too much (I am naturally ****y, so this happens to me sometimes), never say something like "Girls like confident guys" or anything of that nature. It makes it sound like you're acting a certain way to make an impression on her, or that you're explaining your behavior to her. Don't do either, that's completely incongruent.
When you get this signal, just redirect the conversation to something less volatile, but don't do too much to verify or deny her claim. Brush it off and change it up.
I got a reply from cult lady.. she seems to be turning down the offer to worship me. Unbelievable. :crazy:MotownMack said:Completely ignore this. This is her way of trying subtly communicate to you that she thinks she's hot sh1t- there is a very good chance this is her way of saying "I'm so hot, guys won't approach me." I've often heard this from girls who are hot, but don't get approached because they have b1thy attitudes or aloof expressions, and want to project the reason as being "someone else's hang up" when the reality is almost surely that the cause is her own demeanor. I am sorry, but the fact of the matter is hot girls get approached, period. If they aren't getting approach often or at all, it's their attitude, not because they are "too good looking." Never buy into this "myth." Don't take that bait.
This isn't the same girl, is it?
The second comment is even more of an attempt to validate her first supposition. She's heard better pick up lines than that, she just liked it cuz it completely supplicated her. She's trying to DHV.
Keeping that scenario in mind, be careful not to validate this one. Be extra ****y with her.
You: Wow, that's completely ironic. I'm actually starting a cult myself, but with me as the object of worship, and thought you might wanna join. In exchange for your undying devotion and servitude, you'll receive a monogrammed velvet robe, autographed 8x10 photos of me, and a travel-size altar w/candles, so you can even worship me on-the-go. You better hurry though, the openings are filling up pretty quickly."