"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I've hooked up with 4 girls since mid August and 3 have lost interest and I feel like the last one is losing interest. I'll meet a girl at a party or something. Talk to her for a bit and if she stays, start using kino and stuff. They like it and I eventually get a hookup with them that night. I don't even know how to explain it. I in college, so that might be why it sucks lol. It's really hard to explain, but what do yall do after hooking up with a girl? Give me some steps.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What exactly do you consider a hook up ? Make out I wouldn't consider a hook up I've seen college sluts/bar stars make out with multiple guys in 1 night now if you have ****ed the girls same night high 5 yourself and go find more?.... And if all these broads are losing interest id assume your over texting and making yourself too available.
 
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It sounds like you're being too available. One of the worst things you can do in the beginning is being too predictable and available. Down the road in a relationship is a different story, but when trying to create attraction, you need indifferance. It's exciting for girls. We need more details for us to dissect this problem, but this is probably the reason.
 
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Sandow said:
It sounds like you're being too available. One of the worst things you can do in the beginning is being too predictable and available. Down the road in a relationship is a different story, but when trying to create attraction, you need indifferance. It's exciting for girls. We need more details for us to dissect this problem, but this is probably the reason.
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examples because I rarely text them, but I guess I might be. I see people constantly calling their girls and they come back all time lol
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ringleader41 said:
examples because I rarely text them, but I guess I might be. I see people constantly calling their girls and they come back all time lol
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why not follow in anti dumps steps and lose them and find girls that have a good IL in you already! Makes things easier. But contact them only monday - wednesday (if you have time!) and NC them all until either 1. They text you. or 2. its been more than two weeks.

Going ghost for a little really helps out a lot on the IL, they wonder where the hell you went and who you are doing ;)
 
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I'll read it, but I'm sick of NCing girls and I've lost every ounce of confidence. I can't really picture a girl liking me at all.
 
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