"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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[Help] Girl Keeps Callin me

PiMpIn GuY

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Hey guys im writing this post in seek of help.

Ive been flirting with this girl for a while (month?) and i told her my cell phone number, and ive got hers too. I quite certain....so lets say she does like me. The first time she called me was after i told her my cell phone number. Next she called me like a day after the next, then she called me again the next day, and called me again the day after that. I've done plenty of kino when i see her (minimum 2 times a week 'i see her' so far - shes not in my school) and i try to avoid talking to her on msn, and talked to her on cell phone for less than 5 min. Im doing this so that when i actually see her i can do kino and talk to her face to face instead of just tlaking to her on msn and makin dumb happy faces etc. Also, i haven't called her before, and whenever im on msn and shes on too...shes the one who always says hi first.

So anyways....she calls me a lot now to talk to me when shes bored. Ive read about how guys shouldnt calls girls everyday, and that you shouldnt call girls right after a date, but this time its the opposite, i havent even called her before. So anyways shes an 8 ('rating an 8, not age 8' - fine with me lol) and i gotta know how to deal with this...because i know talkin on the phone too much/too long isnt good.

PS I've been pretending to be busy, i try to keep the conv less than 5 min and it has been less than 5 min (all of them).

Guys plz help me

Oh yeah, and i do like this person!! ITs not like i dont want her to call me, but i know that if this continues shell lose interest in me
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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PiMpIn GuY

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dam ppl.....help me!! i really need help on this one guyz.....
Any advice or any little tip could help me, plz post SOMETHIGN!
 

PiMpIn GuY

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yeah i thought about not pickin up, but that might cause her to think i dont like her or something....but thx for the tip! anyone else?
 

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Turn your cell phone off unless you want to talk to somebody.

And chill... if you're unavailable half the time, her interest should go up, not down. If it does go down, she's a stinking attention wh0re.

BGMan
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Set your phone to put a specific ring on when its her number and answer it when you like to.
 

crackhead

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howbout stick your **** in her crotch


damn man, 15?? that sounds normal for girls to be extra chatty and calling you all the time

she likes you

and she's an 8

make your move

i wish this site existed when i was 15
 

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You might try either going out on a date, in which case she would be more confident about what stage your relationship is in, or you could confront her about the constant messages.

It's better for her to learn early that no one should be that needy so that when she's 5 years older and meets another great guy (like me ;) she knows how to act
 

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Yeah, if you not answering your phone once is enough to make her think you don't like her anymore, you need to rethink you're "I'm appearing to be busy and have a life" impression, because it's not working.
 

PiMpIn GuY

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i might be gettin this the wrong way but i do like her!

its not like i want to tell her that i dont like her, its jus that i wanna show her that i have a life (a fake one) i dont mind her callin me once in a while tho
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yeah, if you not answering your phone once is enough to make her think you don't like her anymore, you need to rethink you're "I'm appearing to be busy and have a life" impression, because it's not working.
i might be gettin this the wrong way but i do like her!

its not like i want to tell her that i dont like her, its jus that i wanna show her that i have a life (a fake one) i dont mind her callin me once in a while tho
hahhah whoops i quoted myslef...sry for the double post......dont read this stupid post!! lol
 
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