"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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LavaCreep

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Im having girl troubles and i need some advice

Ok so there is this girl named Mindy that doesnt go to the same school as me. The only time we have contact is through swim practice. We go to the same swim practice everyday throughout the week. And we also run together after swim practice, during the jog we usually talk about swim and school stuff. She seems to enjoy my company. I occasionally give out hints of my intentions. But here is where the problems start

First of all she is two years older than me. Shes a senior where i am a sophomore, im 15 shes 17. However height isnt an issue since we are the same height. She also doesnt look very old either, she looks the same if not younger than me. We dont go to the same school, our only contact is through swimming and texting.

We have been enjoying eachother's company for months now and we text a lot too. Im afraid that I might end up in the friend zone. So i built up the courage to ask her out to the movies. She first says "no thanks", so i followed up with "another time then", which she then tells me that she has a boyfriend. Out of the months that we have been talking shes never mentioned this boyfriend. Im not worried about the friendship ending since we still talk without awkwardness.

I'm worried that i might end up in the friend category, or maybe i already am and if i should just give up with her. You guys have any tips on how maybe i could win her over her boyfriend or maybe i should move on.

ps.i have no clue on how her relationship with her boyfriend is doing."if she even has one"

edit: Im not a sexual guy. Shes also a nice girl, i dont plan on being sexual with her. Plus shes not the sexual type either.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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NorwegianDJ

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LavaCreep said:
edit: Im not a sexual guy. I respect women and am big on abstinence. i dont plan on being sexual with her.
Wat.
I dont see how being sexual is an antonym to respect. Would you feel disrespected if a girl was being sexual towards you??

I think you are just being a ***** and rationalizing your fears.
 

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No i did not mean it that way. Those are in two different sentences which express different ideas.
 

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LavaCreep said:
I'm worried that i might end up in the friend category, or maybe i already am and if i should just give up with her. You guys have any tips on how maybe i could win her over her boyfriend or maybe i should move on.

ps.i have no clue on how her relationship with her boyfriend is doing."if she even has one"

edit: Im not a sexual guy. Shes also a nice girl, i dont plan on being sexual with her. Plus shes not the sexual type either.
You are just a friend, you can't win her over her boyfriend, and you should move on. Even if she doesn't have a boyfriend, she said no the best way she could have. It would have been worse if she had said no more harshly.

NOW ONTO THE SEXUAL. This is important. You seem to have immature internal beliefs about sexuality. It is essential that you understand that all humans are sexual and should incorporate their sexuality into their personality. If you suppress your sexuality, you are being dishonest to every girl you are attracted to (this is why you didn't make a move earlier with this girl). This dishonesty is toxic to all relationships, and the sooner you work it out, the better.
 

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There's no hope left regarding this chick. Drop her and read The DJ Bible *VERY IMPORTANT*. You indeed are stuck in a hopeless realm of feminism. You need to change your core beliefs about sexuality and BE A MAN :)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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AlexLefty

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I didn't even read this. All i can say is FEMINISM IS GAY AS ****.
Literally...feminists are possibly the most annoying group of ****s ever.

Misogyny > feminism

Just realized ****s isn't censored....lmfao
 

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You're not a sexual guy? Bullsh1t, quit lying mate. What a joke, get your head out your ass.
She's not like that? Haha dude you've played right into her game. You really don't have a chance here, move on
 
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