"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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LavaCreep

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Im having girl troubles and i need some advice

Ok so there is this girl named Mindy that doesnt go to the same school as me. The only time we have contact is through swim practice. We go to the same swim practice everyday throughout the week. And we also run together after swim practice, during the jog we usually talk about swim and school stuff. She seems to enjoy my company. I occasionally give out hints of my intentions. But here is where the problems start

First of all she is two years older than me. Shes a senior where i am a sophomore, im 15 shes 17. However height isnt an issue since we are the same height. She also doesnt look very old either, she looks the same if not younger than me. We dont go to the same school, our only contact is through swimming and texting.

We have been enjoying eachother's company for months now and we text a lot too. Im afraid that I might end up in the friend zone. So i built up the courage to ask her out to the movies. She first says "no thanks", so i followed up with "another time then", which she then tells me that she has a boyfriend. Out of the months that we have been talking shes never mentioned this boyfriend. Im not worried about the friendship ending since we still talk without awkwardness.

I'm worried that i might end up in the friend category, or maybe i already am and if i should just give up with her. You guys have any tips on how maybe i could win her over her boyfriend or maybe i should move on.

ps.i have no clue on how her relationship with her boyfriend is doing."if she even has one"

edit: Im not a sexual guy. Shes also a nice girl, i dont plan on being sexual with her. Plus shes not the sexual type either.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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NorwegianDJ

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LavaCreep said:
edit: Im not a sexual guy. I respect women and am big on abstinence. i dont plan on being sexual with her.
Wat.
I dont see how being sexual is an antonym to respect. Would you feel disrespected if a girl was being sexual towards you??

I think you are just being a ***** and rationalizing your fears.
 

LavaCreep

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No i did not mean it that way. Those are in two different sentences which express different ideas.
 

LearningSlowly

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LavaCreep said:
I'm worried that i might end up in the friend category, or maybe i already am and if i should just give up with her. You guys have any tips on how maybe i could win her over her boyfriend or maybe i should move on.

ps.i have no clue on how her relationship with her boyfriend is doing."if she even has one"

edit: Im not a sexual guy. Shes also a nice girl, i dont plan on being sexual with her. Plus shes not the sexual type either.
You are just a friend, you can't win her over her boyfriend, and you should move on. Even if she doesn't have a boyfriend, she said no the best way she could have. It would have been worse if she had said no more harshly.

NOW ONTO THE SEXUAL. This is important. You seem to have immature internal beliefs about sexuality. It is essential that you understand that all humans are sexual and should incorporate their sexuality into their personality. If you suppress your sexuality, you are being dishonest to every girl you are attracted to (this is why you didn't make a move earlier with this girl). This dishonesty is toxic to all relationships, and the sooner you work it out, the better.
 

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There's no hope left regarding this chick. Drop her and read The DJ Bible *VERY IMPORTANT*. You indeed are stuck in a hopeless realm of feminism. You need to change your core beliefs about sexuality and BE A MAN :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AlexLefty

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I didn't even read this. All i can say is FEMINISM IS GAY AS ****.
Literally...feminists are possibly the most annoying group of ****s ever.

Misogyny > feminism

Just realized ****s isn't censored....lmfao
 

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You're not a sexual guy? Bullsh1t, quit lying mate. What a joke, get your head out your ass.
She's not like that? Haha dude you've played right into her game. You really don't have a chance here, move on
 
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