"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Kaliffoo

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I'm not sure if I'm making too much of this but here's the deal:

I met this chick at a bar thru a friend of mine last Saturday and we hit it off. We danced, talkded and basically hung out all night together...at the end of the night we had a little make-out session and i got her number.

I'm 21 go to college and live with my parents, this chick hb9, is 25 and has her own place. We're most likely gonna go out this weekend but the problem is I dont know what place seems reasonable. I just feel like going to the movies or playing mini-golf doesn't seem like something a 25 year old chick would be into. I dont wanna feel like a little school kid going out with a grown up (Does that make sense?).

Anyways, any comments, tips or advice would be appreciated.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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frivolousz21

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so what you want to do!


ur attitude, confidence and passione will define you..not what ur doing with her!

sometimes the simplist things are the best things.

take her to a comedy club
 

PeoplesChamp

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Good Advice frivolous! Don't let the age factor intimidate you. Keep her in your reality. Mini golf is fun sh!t no matter what age you are...:D
 

blue17

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
so do what you want to do!


ur attitude, confidence and passione will define you..not what ur doing with her!
Yes thank you...this site is winning back my faith slowly but surely.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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