help asap.....dont know what to say

[FrankWank]

Crazy story!

I met this waitress at her job at this club couple weekends ago. We had a little convo..about 5 minutes.
I didnt ask for the number since i would some time later on return to the same club and see her again.

Couple days later, i seen her profile on this dating site. 2 pics and everything i asked about her in our convo was posted on her profile. I became a member and hit her up saying "have we met before, you look and sound very familiar?"

I noticed that same night she opened up the email i sent to her ( i get a response saying she opened my email) She waited a week to respond to me, which was last thursday. So today i opened up her return email and she says " your sssssssooooooo funny! i think we have met. darn, what a coincedence "
This is what her reply was

Now what do i say in return? Im replying to her 3 days later.

 

[diablo]

Is there any reason you have to reply to her on the internet? You know where she works, you've already met, and now you have a perfect opener. She's shown some attraction to you - signified by the fact that she wrote back in the first place - now go and meet her again in person, this time playing your cards right. Let us know how it goes. I believe that this would be far superior than just sending emails back and forth...

 

[FrankWank]

the reason is she works at a club as a waitress. She's there PT. She works some friday and sat nights, so no set schedule. I dont want to go there every friday/sat night to just talk to her.If i end up going again, im gonna mack on some other chicks and i dont want to do that in her presence. I need to show her that i have a life and need not to go back to the same club. I guess its the mysteriuos thing.The internet is a different type of setting than a club. Her mind should be more clear than at work where every guy is jocking her

That is why im trying to contact her again by email maybe 1 more time

 

[FrankWank]

OR.......i can email asking when's the next time she works? Then i'll just go see her then?

 

[The Bartender]

Originally posted by FrankWank
OR.......i can email asking when's the next time she works? Then i'll just go see her then?

....and she'll think you're a stalker.

My advice: Don't reply back on email. Go in to that club when you want to (when you normally would). See her...Talk to her...ask "would you like to do something after work." She will decline most likely because servers at clubs get out around 2-3am. If she doesnt decline, then have something to do. If she declines...say, "we should talk some time when you aren't working." Then number close this chick.

 

[FrankWank]

Go in to that club when you want to (when you normally would). See her...Talk to her...ask "would you like to do something after work." She will decline most likely because servers at clubs get out around 2-3am. If she doesnt decline, then have something to do. If she declines...say, "we should talk some time when you aren't working." Then number close this chick.

If i do this, i'll be just like every other guy in the bar. Im sure she gets this rap every time. I like to be different.

 

[FrankWank]

bumpity bump

 

[The Bartender]

Every guy wants to do what I typed. You can go with your method but I tell you...if you show up when she says shes working she'll get wierded out.

 

[FrankWank]

True.......i dont want to ask her when she's working then show up, so thanx for that

I want to pursue her romantically but i dont know her schedule and i dont want to pop up in the club every weekend to see if she's working part time. That would be wasting my time

Im leaning towards a short reply email to her then go from there, but im not sure on what to say

 

[The Bartender]

How about this: Instead of asking when she works next, ask in your email "so how many nights a week do you work at XXX?" Most likely she'll reply with something like, "Oh I work 3 nights a week. Thursday, Friday, Saturday." She'll want to be more specific with a question like that so hopefully she'll open up to it. I honestly couldnt see her emailing back just a number and thats all.

 

[FrankWank]

Asking her that leads to me going on those nights just to see her again aka stalking

How about a question on her profile?

 

[The Bartender]

I dont know her profile.

But the question the way i worded it doesnt sound so upfront and blunt about going in and seeing her the next time shes there. It lets you know when you can find her. Obviously dont go the next day if she says she works that day. Hell I wouldnt go for a week. Say you've been busy, or checking out the scene at other clubs.

 

[J.A.M]

No disrespect to the other Posters but personally I think your ignoring a goldmine of opportunity-

Why not go into the club where she works and start busting on her about having her profile on a dating site implying she's a social retard. You could use some real ****y + funny lines on her especially when she counters with "Well you were on the site too" should make for some fun banter between the two of u.

****y and funny is the way to go with chicks

 

[The Bartender]

Originally posted by J.A.M
No disrespect to the other Posters but personally I think your ignoring a goldmine of opportunity-

Why not go into the club where she works and start busting on her about having her profile on a dating site implying she's a social retard. You could use some real ****y + funny lines on her especially when she counters with "Well you were on the site too" should make for some fun banter between the two of u.

****y and funny is the way to go with chicks

Be cautious on how c/f you get. With her being at work she might go straight into b!tch mode and get really defensive if you start embarassing her around co-workers

 

[GaryNas]

Originally posted by J.A.M
No disrespect to the other Posters but personally I think your ignoring a goldmine of opportunity-

Why not go into the club where she works and start busting on her about having her profile on a dating site implying she's a social retard. You could use some real ****y + funny lines on her especially when she counters with "Well you were on the site too" should make for some fun banter between the two of u.

****y and funny is the way to go with chicks

I completely agree with this. Go to her bar and say something like "I knew it was you!", then let the convo flow from there.

 

[One on One]

Go to the bar and order like 15 shots of vodka, then drop a Benjamin on her for tip....be a MAN!

 

[The Bartender]

Originally posted by One on One
Go to the bar and order like 15 shots of vodka, then drop a Benjamin on her for tip....be a MAN!

I hope you're kidding. The most AFC thing to do in a bar is trying to get recognized by tipping big.

 

[One on One]

Originally posted by The Bartender
I hope you're kidding. The most AFC thing to do in a bar is trying to get recognized by tipping big.

Of course I'm kidding....c'mon now....15 shots of vodka, yeah thats gonna impress her!