Help a mature brother decide

[spred]

Ending and lessons learned.

Recap: matched online end of 2019, we worked then in different cities, pandemic came and we communicated online and phone.
She initiated daily, I had low interest, she asked me out repeatedly, met may 2021, met regularly starting this January because I moved back home.
She kept initiating and asking me out, had a good oadtrip end of Jan, this time at the end gave me the cheek. Went silent for a week, then she said she misunderstood my intention. We kept dating, she went colder and colder.

Ending:
I went no contact for one month, today exchanged final goodbyes.

Lessons learned:
- Corey Wayne is right, they reveal themselves after 90 days
- women find your replacement before ending it with you: this woman hid her activity on messaging apps two months ago after kiss rejecting, started to complain preemptively about diseases she has and new work challenges to prepare me for future flakes
- when all your dates are outside the city and you are not meeting her friends, you are the side guy
- she has no women friends (observed by me and admitted by her), and lots of male orbiters
- this time I had no gut feeling, not good nor bad
- words vs actions : this woman love bombed me on text and phone and was stone cold in person

All in all happy with what I learned, thanks for your responses and support.

 

[2Rocky]

Women slot themselves if you let them. The key is not to give them a promotion , but to let them earn it.

Sounds like you didn't have a lot invested in her, so another lesson learned...

 

[spred]

Women slot themselves if you let them. The key is not to give them a promotion , but to let them earn it.

Sounds like you didn't have a lot invested in her, so another lesson learned...

Yes indeed. I still made mistakes (acting weak and beta as time went by), but with low investment I was able to see more clear her tests and my mistakes (corrected some).
After yesterdays “mutual” agreement to stop dating, today she restricted me on social media (where she has nothing) and deleted her job on LinkedIn (we are still connected).

These actions should have been made by me, the nominal “beta”, not by her!

 

[RobbyDog]

Just a complete and utter attention wh*re

After all that time, If she wouldn’t at least kiss me passionately on the first date I would drop her right away. Paradoxically, if you give in to their sexual resistance, they’ll reject you for being too nice.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This was doomed from the beginning...LDRs don't work.