"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hello, my name is VivalaRebellion, and...

vivalarebellion

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...I'm introducing myself:up: . I'm sixteen years old right now, but I'll be seventeen soon in April, and I'm a junior in high school right now. So I thought it'd be best to post in this section.

For most of my life, and coming into high school, I used to be the fat or awkward person, but thankfully I stopped taking **** and stopped caring and started to work out. Hopefully, I'm on the path to being a DJ. (<-lol, I was stupid and was wondering for a long time why everyone was referring to themselves as disc jockeys).

I still have a long way to go, but, I've decided to change. And If I'm going to go, I'll go big. I plan to conquer my high school next year, and so, it seems I found the perfect place:woo: .
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Awesome. I'm in Highschool now, actually my second year, and I turned seventeen this March. But anyway. I'll help you out when ever you need it bro.
 

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T-Roy said:
Awesome. I'm in Highschool now, actually my second year, and I turned seventeen this March. But anyway. I'll help you out when ever you need it bro.
Thanks man. I wish I had started this all when I was earlier in high school, but I couldn't muster up the balls to do anything until now. I don't plan on just leeching from the members here, hopefully I can contribute from what I learn as I wing it.
 

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Good Luck Viva!

You're in for the best times of you life
 

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Same here! Wish I had found this sort of place when I was in HS, but then again, I was never dumped in HS (and never dumped a girl either, make your own conclusions...) and so never googled "how to get ex back." I ended up on Loveshack.org, and, although that taught me the basis of No Contact, and offered great emotional support, it didn't tell me how to move on and find a new girl!
Now I absolutely want to move on, and I hope what I learn from this site will really help. I've already started applying the first lesson of the Don Juan Boot Camp (ie prolonged Eye Contact and saying "Hi!") and I hope I'll quickly move on to the next "lessons".

Vivalarebellion, good luck with your HS win back! It's a tough place when you don't fit in, if it doesn't work as well as you planned there's always college to look forward to! Let's DO THIS!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Thanks MCristo, labrat! I've enjoyed high school so far, but, simply put. I could make it better, a lot better. Hanging out with my friends is cool and all, but it's time for something bigger.

I don't have a bad reputation in my high school, thankfully. I'm known as being one of the smartest people in my class, but not as a nerd. (People don't really call you a nerd when you've proven that you can bench press as much as the football players:cool: ). My school is ruled by the football players (probably like every other school), and so getting their respect helped a lot.

And so, Spring Break is over. After this weekend, back to school. Let the changes begin.
 

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Well, well, well. First day back and it already feels different. Went into the first period of the day and was talkative, flirted with some girls, made jokes that the entire class laughed at. And! I wasn't afraid of embarrassing myself, which is a massive plus to me. I spoke the truth, and didn't care whether other people laughed or not. (I am a proud nerd:up: )

Second period, one of the senior girls that I'm friends with, (amazing (boobs) body, 8.8 at the very least), suddenly starts talking to me out of nowhere, and starts asking "Is ________ here?", "Hey ________!" "How are you?", "Did you have fun?". That was amazing to me since we've never really talked even though we're in the same class. She wants me to help her workout (a chance that I'd be falling over myself before I came to these forums), so I'm going to see if she's really interested, or if she's trying to use me.

Third period, Advanced P.E...so I sit on my *** and do nothing;) . It's basically the B.S. class that people take to do nothing, and catch up with homework and stuff.

Fourth period, it started to go downhill as I got really sleepy. Suddenly I started to feel self-conscious, and so I wasn't as outgoing as I wanted to be.

So yeah, it started off amazing and tapered down as I started to question everything too much. I'm working on it, but, it's a vast improvement to what my days were like before. (Sit back, be quiet, pretty much stay out of view). It's the first day of change, and I'm going to sustain it. I still have to work on confidence, because I reply on what other people think too much still. But, it's getting better.

I was more talkative and looked in girls eyes, those were two goals I set for myself. The third, smile more, I didn't accomplish as much. The eye thing was actually pretty amusing to me since even the most (seemingly) self-confident girls would avert their eyes after a while. Do it, it's actually pretty fun.

*edit: Read smoothtalker's thread. So...I assume a girl taking my phone and taking a picture of herself and saving it, that's a sign of interest? I say this because the girl is giving me mixed signals.
 
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