Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I am reading the rational male nowadays. I got offer of sex from a 17 years old when I was 14 but I was nervous so I could not do it. I don't know whether I should be sad because I am still a virgin or I should be thankful because my life is better than million homeless people who can't even eat twice a day
Absolutely true. I am more philosophical in this age than most people
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I think @Atom Smasher might still be in contact with him. He probably plays golf with Pook and Alice Cooper. Not sure who would round out that foursome. Nita Strauss would be cool!
@Atom Smasher Is this true?
Hay kid. If you're going to be a bleeding heart, at minimum do your homework. Millions of people
Lol I am just wanting to know how to get what if I want in life and I am smart enough to pass without studying. I don't even touch books in home and just use internet whole day so it's not a problem I use this "internet time" on getting girls. I think only fools have to memorize a book. If someone tells you to memorize an essay about birds so it might be hard but if someone tells you to right whatever you know about birds so it will be easy. Does it make sense?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You're 16... No, you should not be sad about that. Many guys on this forum were waaaaay later than that and many more who did have sex got burnt by women for years and even decades.
Yes with Alice (Vince), but not with Pook. Pook completely vanished in around 2014, several years after he left SoSuave. His last visit to SoSuave was in August of 2013 in lurker mode. I guess he had a sudden urge to “drive by” the old stomping grounds.
The only reason I am feeling sad is because I met many guys who lost virginity at 10 or 12 or even younger. I even saw videos of it so I am kind of jealous but I am definitely lucky lucky compared to many of you who were virgins at 25
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yeah I will also try to build emotional connection before having sex. It's not the label "virgin" that's annoying me. I am just sexually frustrated and my one real life friend lost virginity at 15 with a woman in her late 20s. He said it was great experience so I just wanna experience it too. I have approach anxiety and I never had a girl as friend in my life. I am just working on approach anxiety nowadays. I did tell a stranger girl in bukha that her voice is beautiful and she was looking at me in a way that I thought she was absolutely creeped out
Not Neil Strauss, Nita Strauss. She's recently been the female guitarist in Alice's touring band, replacing Orianthi. She seems like she's pretty cool. I was just kidding about you golfing with Pook. I'd enjoy playing a round, but unfortunately I'm a terrible golfer. Not for lack of trying lol.
That's way below average. The guys you've met who haven't lost their virginity yet tend not to talk about it so you're probably biased by this.
Not sure what the laws are where you're from, but I'm pretty sure such videos are illegal in most parts of the world.
First piece of advice, complimenting a woman as the first thing you say to her is universally creepy.
that's below average yeah but they are lucky. many lies I know
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.