Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I am reading the rational male nowadays. I got offer of sex from a 17 years old when I was 14 but I was nervous so I could not do it. I don't know whether I should be sad because I am still a virgin or I should be thankful because my life is better than million homeless people who can't even eat twice a day
Absolutely true. I am more philosophical in this age than most people
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I think @Atom Smasher might still be in contact with him. He probably plays golf with Pook and Alice Cooper. Not sure who would round out that foursome. Nita Strauss would be cool!
@Atom Smasher Is this true?
Hay kid. If you're going to be a bleeding heart, at minimum do your homework. Millions of people
Lol I am just wanting to know how to get what if I want in life and I am smart enough to pass without studying. I don't even touch books in home and just use internet whole day so it's not a problem I use this "internet time" on getting girls. I think only fools have to memorize a book. If someone tells you to memorize an essay about birds so it might be hard but if someone tells you to right whatever you know about birds so it will be easy. Does it make sense?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You're 16... No, you should not be sad about that. Many guys on this forum were waaaaay later than that and many more who did have sex got burnt by women for years and even decades.
Yes with Alice (Vince), but not with Pook. Pook completely vanished in around 2014, several years after he left SoSuave. His last visit to SoSuave was in August of 2013 in lurker mode. I guess he had a sudden urge to “drive by” the old stomping grounds.
The only reason I am feeling sad is because I met many guys who lost virginity at 10 or 12 or even younger. I even saw videos of it so I am kind of jealous but I am definitely lucky lucky compared to many of you who were virgins at 25
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yeah I will also try to build emotional connection before having sex. It's not the label "virgin" that's annoying me. I am just sexually frustrated and my one real life friend lost virginity at 15 with a woman in her late 20s. He said it was great experience so I just wanna experience it too. I have approach anxiety and I never had a girl as friend in my life. I am just working on approach anxiety nowadays. I did tell a stranger girl in bukha that her voice is beautiful and she was looking at me in a way that I thought she was absolutely creeped out
Not Neil Strauss, Nita Strauss. She's recently been the female guitarist in Alice's touring band, replacing Orianthi. She seems like she's pretty cool. I was just kidding about you golfing with Pook. I'd enjoy playing a round, but unfortunately I'm a terrible golfer. Not for lack of trying lol.
That's way below average. The guys you've met who haven't lost their virginity yet tend not to talk about it so you're probably biased by this.
Not sure what the laws are where you're from, but I'm pretty sure such videos are illegal in most parts of the world.
First piece of advice, complimenting a woman as the first thing you say to her is universally creepy.
that's below average yeah but they are lucky. many lies I know
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.