"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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He said "nice thong"...

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I'm a girl.

Theres this guy at work that I like who I think might like me too.
Anyway, the other day we were in the office talking and I bent down to get a light bulb, and he was behind me, and must have seen it a little cuz he went, "nice thong."

But he said it kinda quietly and at first I didn't know what he said, so I turned around real fast and was like, "what?"

And he goes, "nothing."

It took me like a second to figure out what he said. I was kinda shocked that he would say something like that since he seems kinda shy.

So whats the deal when a guy says something like that? Would you consider it just joking around between friends, or maybe flirting possibly? Would a guy make a comment like that to someone he just considers a friend? We haven't even hung out together yet ever, so it's not like we're close buddies or anything...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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lol sounds to me like it came out by accident and it's never just joking between friends I can't belive you chicks think that.

If a guy makes a comment like that with you it's not a joke. Even if he's laughing when he says it and you have been buddies.
If your a girl and a guy talks to you about anything sexual he wants you automatically.

But it came out by accident if he's shy.
 
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Maybe he was talking to himself but said it aloud? After you noticed he caught himself. So are you attracted to the guy or what? You came here for an answer so I am assuming you are?
 
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i joke arround with girls like that all the time..
 
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Yeah it's joking but you like the thong when you joke about it right?

Yeah.

It's not like you'd say it to some fat ugly chick that you hate looking at. You'd just ignore her.

She's wondering if he's actually attracted to her and I'm saying of course he is.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ever consider...

That you might get such a reaction when you put on that ass floss?
 
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you should've been like 'you like my thong? here let me give you a better look"
or, "can i see yours now?" and when he says 'what', say 'nothing'

just playing

Seriously though, yah he likes you since you're not close friends. Especially since he's shy, he would make some non-sexual jokes around you before going sexual.
 
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are you hot?

if you are, that was not a friendly comment. that was a comment of, "i'd like to be wearing it around my neck."

come on... how old are you? stuff like this should be pretty obvious for girls over 15... no?

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Hey boys, thanx for all your replies!
Somebody asked how old I am...I'm 20.
And someone else asked if I like him, and yeah, I do. I'm slowly trying to figure out if maybe he likes me too, lol.
Umm...Idk if I'd consider myself "hot". I'm think I'm more "cute" than hot, if you get the difference, lol.
I think I get what you guys are saying...it just kinda took me by surprise he's not this real ****y guy who goes around hitting on every girl he sees, he's more reserved and shy than that. Which I guess makes this kinda comment even better, I mean in terms in whether he likes me or not!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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udontknowme said:
Hey boys, thanx for all your replies!
Somebody asked how old I am...I'm 20.
And someone else asked if I like him, and yeah, I do. I'm slowly trying to figure out if maybe he likes me too, lol.
Umm...Idk if I'd consider myself "hot". I'm think I'm more "cute" than hot, if you get the difference, lol.
I think I get what you guys are saying...it just kinda took me by surprise he's not this real ****y guy who goes around hitting on every girl he sees, he's more reserved and shy than that. Which I guess makes this kinda comment even better, I mean in terms in whether he likes me or not!
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lol
I would never say that to a woman who I dont find attractive, so yes he wants you! Try to give him other signs that you like him, and let us know what happens.
 
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WTF was that last post?

Anyway, use this post as proof that chicks can like guys who they know are shy. It's just the shy guys won't do anything! Just more proof that the way this site describes attraction is utter bullsh!t.

Confidence will get you to make the move but not make the girl like you. That's why confident freaks still don't get laid. Because who cares if their confident if their still freaks.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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udontknowme said:
I'm a girl.
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The name of this section of the forum is "don juan discussion." Not "dumbass teenage Juanita discussion"
 
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mrRuckus said:
The name of this section of the forum is "don juan discussion." Not "dumbass teenage Juanita discussion"
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What the hell was that? :rolleyes:
 
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mrRuckus said:
The name of this section of the forum is "don juan discussion." Not "dumbass teenage Juanita discussion"
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The name of this section of the forum is "don juan discussion". Not "jerkstore customer discussion"
 
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hope7 said:
its called a joke dude. calm down, everythings gonna be alright.
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everything's gonna be alright.:crackup: I'm using that from now on whenever somebody gets their panies all bunched up! :crackup:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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