“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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He said "nice thong"...

udontknowme

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I'm a girl.

Theres this guy at work that I like who I think might like me too.
Anyway, the other day we were in the office talking and I bent down to get a light bulb, and he was behind me, and must have seen it a little cuz he went, "nice thong."

But he said it kinda quietly and at first I didn't know what he said, so I turned around real fast and was like, "what?"

And he goes, "nothing."

It took me like a second to figure out what he said. I was kinda shocked that he would say something like that since he seems kinda shy.

So whats the deal when a guy says something like that? Would you consider it just joking around between friends, or maybe flirting possibly? Would a guy make a comment like that to someone he just considers a friend? We haven't even hung out together yet ever, so it's not like we're close buddies or anything...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Bvbidd

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lol sounds to me like it came out by accident and it's never just joking between friends I can't belive you chicks think that.

If a guy makes a comment like that with you it's not a joke. Even if he's laughing when he says it and you have been buddies.
If your a girl and a guy talks to you about anything sexual he wants you automatically.

But it came out by accident if he's shy.
 

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Maybe he was talking to himself but said it aloud? After you noticed he caught himself. So are you attracted to the guy or what? You came here for an answer so I am assuming you are?
 

dirtyvibe

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i joke arround with girls like that all the time..
 

Bvbidd

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Yeah it's joking but you like the thong when you joke about it right?

Yeah.

It's not like you'd say it to some fat ugly chick that you hate looking at. You'd just ignore her.

She's wondering if he's actually attracted to her and I'm saying of course he is.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ol'BlueEyes

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Ever consider...

That you might get such a reaction when you put on that ass floss?
 

hope7

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you should've been like 'you like my thong? here let me give you a better look"
or, "can i see yours now?" and when he says 'what', say 'nothing'

just playing

Seriously though, yah he likes you since you're not close friends. Especially since he's shy, he would make some non-sexual jokes around you before going sexual.
 

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are you hot?

if you are, that was not a friendly comment. that was a comment of, "i'd like to be wearing it around my neck."

come on... how old are you? stuff like this should be pretty obvious for girls over 15... no?

delta
 

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Hey boys, thanx for all your replies!
Somebody asked how old I am...I'm 20.
And someone else asked if I like him, and yeah, I do. I'm slowly trying to figure out if maybe he likes me too, lol.
Umm...Idk if I'd consider myself "hot". I'm think I'm more "cute" than hot, if you get the difference, lol.
I think I get what you guys are saying...it just kinda took me by surprise he's not this real ****y guy who goes around hitting on every girl he sees, he's more reserved and shy than that. Which I guess makes this kinda comment even better, I mean in terms in whether he likes me or not!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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udontknowme said:
Hey boys, thanx for all your replies!
Somebody asked how old I am...I'm 20.
And someone else asked if I like him, and yeah, I do. I'm slowly trying to figure out if maybe he likes me too, lol.
Umm...Idk if I'd consider myself "hot". I'm think I'm more "cute" than hot, if you get the difference, lol.
I think I get what you guys are saying...it just kinda took me by surprise he's not this real ****y guy who goes around hitting on every girl he sees, he's more reserved and shy than that. Which I guess makes this kinda comment even better, I mean in terms in whether he likes me or not!
lol
I would never say that to a woman who I dont find attractive, so yes he wants you! Try to give him other signs that you like him, and let us know what happens.
 

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WTF was that last post?

Anyway, use this post as proof that chicks can like guys who they know are shy. It's just the shy guys won't do anything! Just more proof that the way this site describes attraction is utter bullsh!t.

Confidence will get you to make the move but not make the girl like you. That's why confident freaks still don't get laid. Because who cares if their confident if their still freaks.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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udontknowme said:
I'm a girl.
The name of this section of the forum is "don juan discussion." Not "dumbass teenage Juanita discussion"
 

Bvbidd

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mrRuckus said:
The name of this section of the forum is "don juan discussion." Not "dumbass teenage Juanita discussion"
What the hell was that? :rolleyes:
 

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mrRuckus said:
The name of this section of the forum is "don juan discussion." Not "dumbass teenage Juanita discussion"
The name of this section of the forum is "don juan discussion". Not "jerkstore customer discussion"
 

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hope7 said:
its called a joke dude. calm down, everythings gonna be alright.
everything's gonna be alright.:crackup: I'm using that from now on whenever somebody gets their panies all bunched up! :crackup:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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