"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"He only wants one thing from you."

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I have seen this advice given by many people to a younger girl that might be interested in dating an older man.

The theory seems to be that an older man for example, a 45 year old man, is only interested in a 20 year old for one thing. i.e. he only wants her body. What else could he possibly want from you?!

I keep seeing this advice being given over and over again to younger women. Stay away from him. He is only after one thing.

My answer is SO What?! Here is a news flash. Most 20 year old guys are after girls for just one thing as well! They hardly want a relationship.

And the assumption is that the 20 year old girl does not want the same thing from the older guy. Why the assumption? Maybe all she wants is a physical relationship as well? Why can't girls also be with a guy for the same "one thing". We know they enjoy it as much as we do!

Either way, I find this ridiculous advice.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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and if he didn't want that one thing, he would be making friends with GUYS (who are logical and less flaky) instead of wasting time with immature young ladies. Some people just need to get a clue about what gender roles and relationships are all about.
 
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"I don't want one thing... I like back massages too"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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MrLuvr said:
I keep seeing this advice being given over and over again to younger women. Stay away from him. He is only after one thing.
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Advice means sh1t anyway to most young chickies now a days.

If a woman makes up her mind to sleep with someone there is little anyone can do in this world that can stop her, especially with words.

Only low-medium interest girls will listen to this advice.
 
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truer words have never been spoken

if a woman likes you, there is very little any one can do to prevent her from sleeping with you

if a woman doesn't like you, there is very little anyone can do to make her sleep with you
 
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Chickspeak: "He only wants one thing from you"

English Translation: "I really wish he only wanted that same one thing from me, so I'll put your feminine virtue in question to make you wonder if you're being a slut if you do bang him while I compete for his attention and hope he sees you as a prude."

More or less, local dialects may vary.
 
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