HB9 ... "Lets get coffee".. wtf?

[MillionBillionaire]

Blonde HB9 at the club I have seen before and have shared a laugh with in the past notices me with my 2 friends that are girls conversating and having a good time on the other side of the bar.

She has a ring on her finger that costs more than my car so she is married or engaged. While we were dancing she would have huge tall buff guys try to come in my set and dance with us... we would all be like "Noooooo... oooooo... noooo" waving our fingers around... rejecting guys that are CLEARLY more physically attractive than I am.

I do the classic spin move into the waltz on her and take her to the bar and I buy her a drink.

She tells me at the bar to take out my phone.. and she starts telling me her number. Then she says "we should grab some coffee."

We all know what "Lets grab a drink" means but wtf does "lets grab coffee" mean when she is married? She also told me she has 2 kids. She is at the bar alot for having 2 kids and is never with a man for having such a big rock...

Do you think she wants me as a f buddy... friend.. orbiter?

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Based on your story, you're not saying if you definitively know she's married. Women buy their own rings all the time, or if she was married and is now divorced she may still wear the ring if it's expensive and shiny. If she's married - off limits. If she's not - pursue. Either way, just ask her where she got the ring from.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Based on your story, you're not saying if you definitively know she's married. Women buy their own rings all the time, or if she was married and is now divorced she may still wear the ring if it's expensive and shiny. If she's married - off limits. If she's not - pursue. Either way, just ask her where she got the ring from.

Thanks Harry.. at first I thought it might be something to "keep the bad guys away" ... now that I think of it she is actually quite a beyach to everyone else in the club.

I would be cool just being friends with her at the club if she is married.. she makes killer social proof and her friends are hb's too.

 

[cola]

Go get coffee and see where it goes..

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Go get coffee and see where it goes..

Ok.. I'll wait a day or two and ask her for coffee instead of going strait for a "real" date.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

I would be cool just being friends with her at the club if she is married.. she makes killer social proof and her friends are hb's too.

Dangerous waters here, my friend. If she is married, her regularly putting herself in a club environment makes her open to cheating on her husband (and you later on). You don't need to seek married women to make "friends" with, especially since that wouldn't be your actual intention in the first place.

If she's not married, it's still a horrible idea to go into this thing with the idea of trying to become her friend. I have also found that women used as "social proof" can also work the opposite way, where other girls are looking and wondering "wow, this hot girl is around him, but why isn't she kissing him or flirting with him? Maybe he's just an orbiter, like some of the other guy friends I have."

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Dangerous waters here, my friend. If she is married, her regularly putting herself in a club environment makes her open to cheating on her husband (and you later on). You don't need to seek married women to make "friends" with, especially since that wouldn't be your actual intention in the first place.

If she's not married, it's still a horrible idea to go into this thing with the idea of trying to become her friend. I have also found that women used as "social proof" can also work the opposite way, where other girls are looking and wondering "wow, this hot girl is around him, but why isn't she kissing him or flirting with him? Maybe he's just an orbiter, like some of the other guy friends I have."

Harry.. do you think I should ask her if she is married via text before I ask her for coffee? Would this be a good idea?

 

[Fitters]

A date is a date , go and work your magic.

BTW , we have "men" out there spending $400 + on first dates with a woman they barely know and end up getting nothing.
Coffee is $5.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I texted her today and got the date. We are going out on Friday at 9:30 pm... I'm picking her up... bringing her to a club.

I guess "lets get coffee" means lets go on a regular date.. and not so much.. I'll meet you at starbucks in the middle of the day for a few minutes.

 

[thatfeel]

Conversating is not a word OP