"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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HB 9 keeps mentioning "how she can't stay out late"...

pyros

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yes, she's making fun of you, and she's not into you. But because she knows you dig her, she wants you as an orbiter that night, just in case her ego is not as high as expected.

In other words, JUST DONT REPLY TO HER AND IGNORE HER FOREVER, unless you want to waste your time and feel like a loser after that.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"Hey I hate to be the bearer of bad news but I had some unexpected stuff pop up with my graduation and I really need to take care of that right now I'm going to have to cancel tonight I'm so sorry"
I thought this message was funny... she hates to be the bearer of bad news

The bad news that she is solely responsible for. Yep, just passing the message along. Don't kill the messenger guys

10/10 word choice

But yeah based on her last message she's either trying to hook you up with her gay cousin or she is pretty immature
 

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Update:

So this is funny. 18 days later this girl texts me this.

Her: Hey, were you on west last night?

Me: Yes it was so crazy, how did you know?

Her: I think I saw you last night. We are retracing our steps from last night.

Me: I was at concrete cowboy, the ranch, and of course Kung Fu.

Her: LOL we were at the ranch and kung fu too I think I saw you at the ranch. I can't remember what color shirt. :)

Me: Maybe we should see each other on purpose sometime.

Her: Lol maybe so. Just let me know when.
 

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1 I wouldnt have suggested to get together after what she did the previous time. You look too over-eager which is a turn off.
2 You can ask her out again and this would be her final opportunity, or you can just forget about her unless she shows active interest in meeting up with you. (ie, she suggests to meet, she asks you out, she texts you a lot, etc).

I would forget about her unless she contacts you an shows WAY MORE INTEREST, because in my experience, when a girl acts this way it leads nowhere.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Update:

So this is funny. 18 days later this girl texts me this.

Her: Hey, were you on west last night?

Me: Yes it was so crazy, how did you know?

Her: I think I saw you last night. We are retracing our steps from last night.

Me: I was at concrete cowboy, the ranch, and of course Kung Fu.

Her: LOL we were at the ranch and kung fu too I think I saw you at the ranch. I can't remember what color shirt. :)

Me: Maybe we should see each other on purpose sometime.

Her: Lol maybe so. Just let me know when.
Damn bro I am so jealous of you Austin is amazing. The women there are just ... Perfect. Cute and not all that stuck up compared to California women.
 

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Don't waste your time. She has to bring up rescheduling, not you. Even if you do right and make a date here, she will flake because she can.
 
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