"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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HB 9.5 at my HS + Going to the same university = keep in touch?

The Comeback Kid

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In under a month, I will be graduating from all the ups and downs of high school and will be very excited for college this fall.

I am going to a pretty decent private college and am hoping for a "new beginning" - no reps, no histories, etc. since hardly anyone from my school would be going there. However, I've learned 5 or 6 other kids from my school are going there too - most of them I still don't know, but one is a HB 9.5, and it's an intriguing case.

I used to talk to this HB 9.5 during Jr. year, when we were in the same SAT tutoring class and talked often (some kino too). However, a little while after this class ended, we drifted away (I asked her out shortly before we drifted - she said I was a great guy but she said no). Anyway, I still try to keep the communication between us going every once in a while, especially once I learned we're going to the same college - in fact, we're in the same school (communications) and in the same dorm (though is huge and has 2400 students in it).

I mentioned this to another member here on the boards a short while ago (we were talking about colleges and stuff), but was wondering what exactly I do here. I do want a "new beginning" from my high school days (like I was happy not a ton of the kids at my HS weren't going), but this chick does seem like someone I could "get to know better" once we're in college, and I could take advantage of it.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I don't think you should worry about how to keep in touch but rather what you did wrong in your first encounter. She may not be interested at all or she may have had a boyfriend. If she's not interested...
 

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LikRetsam said:
I don't think you should worry about how to keep in touch but rather what you did wrong in your first encounter. She may not be interested at all or she may have had a boyfriend. If she's not interested...
not exactly...I don't "like" her. I'm not even thinking relationship in college yet (atleast through the first semester/year). I did change a lot since last year as well, so that should help (confidence went way up). I was thinking more in terms to hang out with - and hopefully hook up with as well. :yes: :yes:
 
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Any help here is appreciated. I tried to clarify what I meant a little bit after LikRetSam's post (he made a very good point, but I don't think that applies to this case at the moment).
 

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I appreciate the advice.

Luke!! , I agree with your point. I want to make a little bit of contact with her through this last month if I can (just a little, not a lot). We'd probably just talk about being excited for college and such, but I'll try to implement some C+F in there.

Now the reason I brought up this seemingly dead thread - I saw another thread about signing yearbooks. I'm preobably getting mine in around two weeks. I'm gonna try to make it something C+F so it leaves a good last impression (view it as waht I do now is the trailer, but college will be the movie).

I dunno if I can use "Hey HB 9.5, I expect to make myself comfortable in your bed at (name of dorm we'll be in) next year ;) " though lol.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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