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HB 9.5 at my HS + Going to the same university = keep in touch?

The Comeback Kid

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In under a month, I will be graduating from all the ups and downs of high school and will be very excited for college this fall.

I am going to a pretty decent private college and am hoping for a "new beginning" - no reps, no histories, etc. since hardly anyone from my school would be going there. However, I've learned 5 or 6 other kids from my school are going there too - most of them I still don't know, but one is a HB 9.5, and it's an intriguing case.

I used to talk to this HB 9.5 during Jr. year, when we were in the same SAT tutoring class and talked often (some kino too). However, a little while after this class ended, we drifted away (I asked her out shortly before we drifted - she said I was a great guy but she said no). Anyway, I still try to keep the communication between us going every once in a while, especially once I learned we're going to the same college - in fact, we're in the same school (communications) and in the same dorm (though is huge and has 2400 students in it).

I mentioned this to another member here on the boards a short while ago (we were talking about colleges and stuff), but was wondering what exactly I do here. I do want a "new beginning" from my high school days (like I was happy not a ton of the kids at my HS weren't going), but this chick does seem like someone I could "get to know better" once we're in college, and I could take advantage of it.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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LikRetsam

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I don't think you should worry about how to keep in touch but rather what you did wrong in your first encounter. She may not be interested at all or she may have had a boyfriend. If she's not interested...
 

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LikRetsam said:
I don't think you should worry about how to keep in touch but rather what you did wrong in your first encounter. She may not be interested at all or she may have had a boyfriend. If she's not interested...
not exactly...I don't "like" her. I'm not even thinking relationship in college yet (atleast through the first semester/year). I did change a lot since last year as well, so that should help (confidence went way up). I was thinking more in terms to hang out with - and hopefully hook up with as well. :yes: :yes:
 
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Any help here is appreciated. I tried to clarify what I meant a little bit after LikRetSam's post (he made a very good point, but I don't think that applies to this case at the moment).
 

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I appreciate the advice.

Luke!! , I agree with your point. I want to make a little bit of contact with her through this last month if I can (just a little, not a lot). We'd probably just talk about being excited for college and such, but I'll try to implement some C+F in there.

Now the reason I brought up this seemingly dead thread - I saw another thread about signing yearbooks. I'm preobably getting mine in around two weeks. I'm gonna try to make it something C+F so it leaves a good last impression (view it as waht I do now is the trailer, but college will be the movie).

I dunno if I can use "Hey HB 9.5, I expect to make myself comfortable in your bed at (name of dorm we'll be in) next year ;) " though lol.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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