Ok so let me tell all this started with a girl named Angela. We dated for a lil bit we really hit it off, we got nasty in the back of a van and than some **** went down and I got really hurt. After that was a girl named Jenn. Me and her went on a couple dates I was diggin her personality and than BOOM I'm finding out she's ****ing around with 3 other guys, so I peace out. The latest one in this story is a girl named Alice. We went on A LOT of dates. She was amazing, everything I wanted in a girl, but she was seeing another guy as well and on valentines I guess he swept her off her feet and she chose him. I'm just sick of all this bull **** happening to me. Any advice?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Having the worst luck finding girl. Advice brothas?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
advice, charge it to the game and keep playing. You gotta lose a few games before you get the hang of it, just keep playing.
Remember every relationship in life comes to an end either by breaking up or death. So it's just a matter of how long you get to enjoy the good times and how good those times are that matters most. It's all temporary in the end.
What do you want? Do you want a girlfriend? A FB? Several FBs? A dozen notches on your bedpost from one night stands? I can't help you because I don't know what it is you want exactly. Do you know?
Remember every relationship in life comes to an end either by breaking up or death. So it's just a matter of how long you get to enjoy the good times and how good those times are that matters most. It's all temporary in the end.
What do you want? Do you want a girlfriend? A FB? Several FBs? A dozen notches on your bedpost from one night stands? I can't help you because I don't know what it is you want exactly. Do you know?
I don't really wanna just sleep around. I want a solid relationship for how ever long. Definitely don't wanna b married. Wanna get into the whole serious relationship than mayb after that just mess around till I find another.Warrior74 said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
If you want a girlfriend you are going to have to be patient. You are going to have to date, and go out with different girls to find one you like, you are going to have to not be in a hurry to be committed, you are going to have to not be needy, you are going to have to let her decide she wants to be in a relationship and let her ask for one. (the ole "what are we?" question). Until then, practice meeting women and going on dates and see what you like out there. If you are desperate for a girlfriend, you won't get one. Sorry buddy. Good luck.
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You seem to be looking for a girlfriend and you're initiating the start of this relationship. You're getting your feelings hurt every time. If that's the case, you will have to make the girl want to initiate.
You're letting these girls' actions get to you. It could have gone further had you not broke.
You are guilty of the feminine move of catching feelings and making it obvious. The fine for this crime is blue balls, no girlfriend, and a trip to Friendzone, Louisiana.
Case closed.
You're letting these girls' actions get to you. It could have gone further had you not broke.
You are guilty of the feminine move of catching feelings and making it obvious. The fine for this crime is blue balls, no girlfriend, and a trip to Friendzone, Louisiana.
Case closed.