I may need to lower my standers, cause I've been in this rut for long time now. Really getting sick and tired of it. I disqualify women all the time because of stupid things, and women that I am attracted to end up being unavilible. I am getting kind of tired of this **** on the real.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Having standerds that are too high. Is worst form of ego.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Since when was being a DJ about external validation. The point of this lifestyle is to be happy not get hi-5's from everyone. Fvck what people think.You said something that is true, but I don't think you know why it is true.DjDan said:
You're hung up on looks and external validation, when you yourself gave the answer to the problem many of the guys on this site face.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Oh that was good! :rockon:reset said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
high standards are a good thing, but getting your dyck wet is even better... so shoot for the best, but if you can't get it settle for less hot girls, they still have a pvssy!
since joining the community i can't say that every girl that i banged was HOTTER than the one before. Sometimes you just want a change of scenery, so going from a HB9 to a 8 or 7 is no big deal.
since joining the community i can't say that every girl that i banged was HOTTER than the one before. Sometimes you just want a change of scenery, so going from a HB9 to a 8 or 7 is no big deal.
just another newb??
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good replies but off point...i guess you are just afraid of getting your ego hurt, so you wont give ur 100% to get it with the girl.
The Deacon
Senior Don Juan
I completely agree. It's like what Dave Chappelle said. A woman's test in life is material, and a man's test in life is a woman. If a man can f*ck a woman in a cardboard box, he won't buy a house.
L777
Master Don Juan
You're such a mong mate, every post you make is just pessimistic and self defeatist. Why don't stop b.itching all the time and get out there and actually go for what you really want.DjDan said:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
It's much easier to find reasons for a lack of success than to do something about it. We've all seen it throughout the forum.L777 said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I agree with you that the quality of women you date is a reflection of how much quality you see in yourself. The point I was arguing on is that it means sh!t all what people think of your situation. Who cares if they think something is wrong with you for dating a girl with bad genetics, or anything else for that matter. The only way to get that inner state which will be reflected in you dating hot women is to let go of external validation like that.DjDan said:
I don't want to start a looks debate but I believe that any man with his sh!t together deserves a stunner. Its not about the guy's looks, its about his mindset. If he's a winner he'll have a hot girl. Saying that an average guy deserves an average girl is a self-defeating mindset. I've seen guys with good genetics date ugly girls simply because they didn't think they deserved anything better. At the same time I've seen guys with average genetics who make the most of them with a cool style and golden attitude with a hottie under their arm.
I think I disagree with you, cyp6. You should probably not lower your standards because doing that would only get you into an unhappy relationship. If you can only stay attracted to super-hot HB10s, then there's no point in getting involved with an HB9 because you'll just end up cheating on her.
Now, if you really think you yourself are not that high-quality, you should improve yourself to bring yourself up to your standards.
If you think your standards are just unrealistic, you might reconsider them and decide if you could satisfactorily settle for less. But don't just drop your standards because of other people's opinions.
Now, if you really think you yourself are not that high-quality, you should improve yourself to bring yourself up to your standards.
If you think your standards are just unrealistic, you might reconsider them and decide if you could satisfactorily settle for less. But don't just drop your standards because of other people's opinions.
MooseGod
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What are 'hot' girls anyway? They're cute but average (not too average, seeing as how 50% of Americans are fat as hell) girls all dolled up to go to the club or wherever. You take a girl who's a 7 most of the week, come friday night she's probably going to look like an 8 or 9, due to makeup and how many beers you've had.