I may need to lower my standers, cause I've been in this rut for long time now. Really getting sick and tired of it. I disqualify women all the time because of stupid things, and women that I am attracted to end up being unavilible. I am getting kind of tired of this **** on the real.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Having standerds that are too high. Is worst form of ego.
- Thread starter cyp6
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Since when was being a DJ about external validation. The point of this lifestyle is to be happy not get hi-5's from everyone. Fvck what people think.You said something that is true, but I don't think you know why it is true.DjDan said:
You're hung up on looks and external validation, when you yourself gave the answer to the problem many of the guys on this site face.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Oh that was good! :rockon:reset said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
high standards are a good thing, but getting your dyck wet is even better... so shoot for the best, but if you can't get it settle for less hot girls, they still have a pvssy!
since joining the community i can't say that every girl that i banged was HOTTER than the one before. Sometimes you just want a change of scenery, so going from a HB9 to a 8 or 7 is no big deal.
since joining the community i can't say that every girl that i banged was HOTTER than the one before. Sometimes you just want a change of scenery, so going from a HB9 to a 8 or 7 is no big deal.
just another newb??
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good replies but off point...i guess you are just afraid of getting your ego hurt, so you wont give ur 100% to get it with the girl.
The Deacon
Senior Don Juan
I completely agree. It's like what Dave Chappelle said. A woman's test in life is material, and a man's test in life is a woman. If a man can f*ck a woman in a cardboard box, he won't buy a house.
L777
Master Don Juan
You're such a mong mate, every post you make is just pessimistic and self defeatist. Why don't stop b.itching all the time and get out there and actually go for what you really want.DjDan said:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
It's much easier to find reasons for a lack of success than to do something about it. We've all seen it throughout the forum.L777 said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I agree with you that the quality of women you date is a reflection of how much quality you see in yourself. The point I was arguing on is that it means sh!t all what people think of your situation. Who cares if they think something is wrong with you for dating a girl with bad genetics, or anything else for that matter. The only way to get that inner state which will be reflected in you dating hot women is to let go of external validation like that.DjDan said:
I don't want to start a looks debate but I believe that any man with his sh!t together deserves a stunner. Its not about the guy's looks, its about his mindset. If he's a winner he'll have a hot girl. Saying that an average guy deserves an average girl is a self-defeating mindset. I've seen guys with good genetics date ugly girls simply because they didn't think they deserved anything better. At the same time I've seen guys with average genetics who make the most of them with a cool style and golden attitude with a hottie under their arm.
I think I disagree with you, cyp6. You should probably not lower your standards because doing that would only get you into an unhappy relationship. If you can only stay attracted to super-hot HB10s, then there's no point in getting involved with an HB9 because you'll just end up cheating on her.
Now, if you really think you yourself are not that high-quality, you should improve yourself to bring yourself up to your standards.
If you think your standards are just unrealistic, you might reconsider them and decide if you could satisfactorily settle for less. But don't just drop your standards because of other people's opinions.
Now, if you really think you yourself are not that high-quality, you should improve yourself to bring yourself up to your standards.
If you think your standards are just unrealistic, you might reconsider them and decide if you could satisfactorily settle for less. But don't just drop your standards because of other people's opinions.
MooseGod
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What are 'hot' girls anyway? They're cute but average (not too average, seeing as how 50% of Americans are fat as hell) girls all dolled up to go to the club or wherever. You take a girl who's a 7 most of the week, come friday night she's probably going to look like an 8 or 9, due to makeup and how many beers you've had.