I may need to lower my standers, cause I've been in this rut for long time now. Really getting sick and tired of it. I disqualify women all the time because of stupid things, and women that I am attracted to end up being unavilible. I am getting kind of tired of this **** on the real.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Having standerds that are too high. Is worst form of ego.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Since when was being a DJ about external validation. The point of this lifestyle is to be happy not get hi-5's from everyone. Fvck what people think.You said something that is true, but I don't think you know why it is true.DjDan said:
You're hung up on looks and external validation, when you yourself gave the answer to the problem many of the guys on this site face.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Oh that was good! :rockon:reset said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
high standards are a good thing, but getting your dyck wet is even better... so shoot for the best, but if you can't get it settle for less hot girls, they still have a pvssy!
since joining the community i can't say that every girl that i banged was HOTTER than the one before. Sometimes you just want a change of scenery, so going from a HB9 to a 8 or 7 is no big deal.
since joining the community i can't say that every girl that i banged was HOTTER than the one before. Sometimes you just want a change of scenery, so going from a HB9 to a 8 or 7 is no big deal.
just another newb??
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good replies but off point...i guess you are just afraid of getting your ego hurt, so you wont give ur 100% to get it with the girl.
The Deacon
Senior Don Juan
I completely agree. It's like what Dave Chappelle said. A woman's test in life is material, and a man's test in life is a woman. If a man can f*ck a woman in a cardboard box, he won't buy a house.
L777
Master Don Juan
You're such a mong mate, every post you make is just pessimistic and self defeatist. Why don't stop b.itching all the time and get out there and actually go for what you really want.DjDan said:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
It's much easier to find reasons for a lack of success than to do something about it. We've all seen it throughout the forum.L777 said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I agree with you that the quality of women you date is a reflection of how much quality you see in yourself. The point I was arguing on is that it means sh!t all what people think of your situation. Who cares if they think something is wrong with you for dating a girl with bad genetics, or anything else for that matter. The only way to get that inner state which will be reflected in you dating hot women is to let go of external validation like that.DjDan said:
I don't want to start a looks debate but I believe that any man with his sh!t together deserves a stunner. Its not about the guy's looks, its about his mindset. If he's a winner he'll have a hot girl. Saying that an average guy deserves an average girl is a self-defeating mindset. I've seen guys with good genetics date ugly girls simply because they didn't think they deserved anything better. At the same time I've seen guys with average genetics who make the most of them with a cool style and golden attitude with a hottie under their arm.
I think I disagree with you, cyp6. You should probably not lower your standards because doing that would only get you into an unhappy relationship. If you can only stay attracted to super-hot HB10s, then there's no point in getting involved with an HB9 because you'll just end up cheating on her.
Now, if you really think you yourself are not that high-quality, you should improve yourself to bring yourself up to your standards.
If you think your standards are just unrealistic, you might reconsider them and decide if you could satisfactorily settle for less. But don't just drop your standards because of other people's opinions.
Now, if you really think you yourself are not that high-quality, you should improve yourself to bring yourself up to your standards.
If you think your standards are just unrealistic, you might reconsider them and decide if you could satisfactorily settle for less. But don't just drop your standards because of other people's opinions.
MooseGod
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What are 'hot' girls anyway? They're cute but average (not too average, seeing as how 50% of Americans are fat as hell) girls all dolled up to go to the club or wherever. You take a girl who's a 7 most of the week, come friday night she's probably going to look like an 8 or 9, due to makeup and how many beers you've had.