"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Having some fun with OKCupid 'tests'

Hughman

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Alright, in the days of my AFChood, I used to take the 'tests' on OkCupid.

http://www.okcupid.com/tests

Now, on the relationship tests, I used to always do 'well'. Was told i was good material for a girl, yadda yadda. So of course i wondered why I was 'failing'.

Now I haven't been on this site for a few months, but I got bored yesterday so I took a few tests. Like this one:

http://www.okcupid.com/tests/the-ideal-boyfriend-test-2

I got the 'Playa' title. Proud of myself, I read the description. I proceeded to get a rant about me being the 'worst kind of guy', treating girls as 'sex objects'. Well shucks, I was a little insulted by that. So I retook it, but answered in how I would have answered 6 months. Guess what? I got 'Perfect Boyfriend' :rolleyes:

I think the mantra I now hold dear is that of Buddha:
'Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.'

This site has taught me a lot of 'common' sense :D
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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CaptainJ

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Haha, I also got Player too. I didn't even answer that playerish. Oh well! Guess I'll have to live with myself being the "worst of all". :D
 

Hughman

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CaptainJ said:
Haha, I also got Player too. I didn't even answer that playerish. Oh well! Guess I'll have to live with myself being the "worst of all". :D
Exactly - just because I want to keep a few plates going doesn't make me 'bad' (I see it as quite good - if I'm making people happy with my presence, then why does it matter if I'm doing that to more than one person?)
 
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