"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Having some fun with OKCupid 'tests'

Hughman

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Alright, in the days of my AFChood, I used to take the 'tests' on OkCupid.

http://www.okcupid.com/tests

Now, on the relationship tests, I used to always do 'well'. Was told i was good material for a girl, yadda yadda. So of course i wondered why I was 'failing'.

Now I haven't been on this site for a few months, but I got bored yesterday so I took a few tests. Like this one:

http://www.okcupid.com/tests/the-ideal-boyfriend-test-2

I got the 'Playa' title. Proud of myself, I read the description. I proceeded to get a rant about me being the 'worst kind of guy', treating girls as 'sex objects'. Well shucks, I was a little insulted by that. So I retook it, but answered in how I would have answered 6 months. Guess what? I got 'Perfect Boyfriend' :rolleyes:

I think the mantra I now hold dear is that of Buddha:
'Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.'

This site has taught me a lot of 'common' sense :D
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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CaptainJ

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Haha, I also got Player too. I didn't even answer that playerish. Oh well! Guess I'll have to live with myself being the "worst of all". :D
 

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CaptainJ said:
Haha, I also got Player too. I didn't even answer that playerish. Oh well! Guess I'll have to live with myself being the "worst of all". :D
Exactly - just because I want to keep a few plates going doesn't make me 'bad' (I see it as quite good - if I'm making people happy with my presence, then why does it matter if I'm doing that to more than one person?)
 
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