"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Having some fun with OKCupid 'tests'

Hughman

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Alright, in the days of my AFChood, I used to take the 'tests' on OkCupid.

http://www.okcupid.com/tests

Now, on the relationship tests, I used to always do 'well'. Was told i was good material for a girl, yadda yadda. So of course i wondered why I was 'failing'.

Now I haven't been on this site for a few months, but I got bored yesterday so I took a few tests. Like this one:

http://www.okcupid.com/tests/the-ideal-boyfriend-test-2

I got the 'Playa' title. Proud of myself, I read the description. I proceeded to get a rant about me being the 'worst kind of guy', treating girls as 'sex objects'. Well shucks, I was a little insulted by that. So I retook it, but answered in how I would have answered 6 months. Guess what? I got 'Perfect Boyfriend' :rolleyes:

I think the mantra I now hold dear is that of Buddha:
'Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.'

This site has taught me a lot of 'common' sense :D
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Haha, I also got Player too. I didn't even answer that playerish. Oh well! Guess I'll have to live with myself being the "worst of all". :D
 

Hughman

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CaptainJ said:
Haha, I also got Player too. I didn't even answer that playerish. Oh well! Guess I'll have to live with myself being the "worst of all". :D
Exactly - just because I want to keep a few plates going doesn't make me 'bad' (I see it as quite good - if I'm making people happy with my presence, then why does it matter if I'm doing that to more than one person?)
 
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