"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Having Pride = Saying NEXT to a flakey chick?

spiegel549

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I have been experiencing and learning a lot over the past month and I am so glad I had a few recent girls flake on me. It really has been a great learning curve on what to do/not to do. They say you really only learn once you have experienced and went through it yourself. To me that couldn't be more true. Someone can give you the ultimate advice and game play to use, but until you go through it with trial/error and experience first hand what not to do, it won't sink in.

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My general question is this. I know a man has to keep his pride, and when you are dealing with a woman that you have been sleeping with, and she flakes on you, when do you pull the plug on her permanently? You have been having S_ex with her on/off, and all of a sudden she goes ghost. Are you throwing your pride out the window if you reach out to these women down the road to see if you can get another "hook up"?

When do you tell yourself, "Well I hit it 4 times already, enough is enough." (delete number) I know the worst thing you can do is come off as Desperate when you are looking to get laid.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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pdx1138

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As a "wanted man" with options, you don't concern yourself with such things.

Let her get back to you and in the meantime, meet some new women.
 

Renegade357

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spiegel549 said:
You have been having S_ex with her on/off, and all of a sudden she goes ghost.

This is her cowardly way of telling you she doesn't like you. She doesn't respect you. She thinks you're a joke. You're not important to her.

Does that answer your question?
 

VladPatton

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Two flakes I think is more than enough. Go crawling back to her and you are setting yourself up for disappointment, rejection, and mental anguish.

I'd be happy with one bang, let alone four. You made out alright.
 

Who Dares Win

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Its not so much a matter of pride but effectivness, a girl which flakes 4 times will surely flake a 5th and a 6th and so on...

Ok now if we talk about pure effectiveness just limit yourself to invite her to your place so even if she flakes nothing changes since you would have been there anyway, but if we have to introduce pride well yeah cut her short.

Its not so much a matter of pride but of quality of life, such hit to your pride or self confidence in the long run decrease your quality of life.

Sure it could be a push to improve yourself, given that such negativity is kicked out in reasonable time..
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This is the same girl that you've started a few threads about right?

The girl who stood you up in epic fashion when you drove all the way over to her house only for her to text you that she hadn't gotten over her ex???

My question here is: WHY ARE YOU SURPRISED???

Think of it like a used car.

You wouldn't very well get your hopes up about a used 89 Buick with a history of transmissions problems, faulty breaks, broken power steering etc...

The instruments on that car are likely to DETERIORATE not get better.

Before you purchase a car like that, you better get it down to as low as you can, not be invested in it at all and basically get as much use out of it before you get your big promotion-- and a new upgrade.

Same thing applies with this girl man.

Again, I ask, why are you surprised???

Say next! For real this time.
 

spiegel549

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NewAndImproved said:
This is the same girl that you've started a few threads about right?

The girl who stood you up in epic fashion when you drove all the way over to her house only for her to text you that she hadn't gotten over her ex???

My question here is: WHY ARE YOU SURPRISED???

Think of it like a used car.

You wouldn't very well get your hopes up about a used 89 Buick with a history of transmissions problems, faulty breaks, broken power steering etc...

The instruments on that car are likely to DETERIORATE not get better.

Before you purchase a car like that, you better get it down to as low as you can, not be invested in it at all and basically get as much use out of it before you get your big promotion-- and a new upgrade.

Same thing applies with this girl man.

Again, I ask, why are you surprised???

Say next! For real this time.
Love that analogy :up:
 

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^^ motion passed.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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LOL I love the bluntness. DONE. :up:


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