"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Having Pride = Saying NEXT to a flakey chick?

spiegel549

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I have been experiencing and learning a lot over the past month and I am so glad I had a few recent girls flake on me. It really has been a great learning curve on what to do/not to do. They say you really only learn once you have experienced and went through it yourself. To me that couldn't be more true. Someone can give you the ultimate advice and game play to use, but until you go through it with trial/error and experience first hand what not to do, it won't sink in.

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My general question is this. I know a man has to keep his pride, and when you are dealing with a woman that you have been sleeping with, and she flakes on you, when do you pull the plug on her permanently? You have been having S_ex with her on/off, and all of a sudden she goes ghost. Are you throwing your pride out the window if you reach out to these women down the road to see if you can get another "hook up"?

When do you tell yourself, "Well I hit it 4 times already, enough is enough." (delete number) I know the worst thing you can do is come off as Desperate when you are looking to get laid.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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pdx1138

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As a "wanted man" with options, you don't concern yourself with such things.

Let her get back to you and in the meantime, meet some new women.
 

Renegade357

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spiegel549 said:
You have been having S_ex with her on/off, and all of a sudden she goes ghost.

This is her cowardly way of telling you she doesn't like you. She doesn't respect you. She thinks you're a joke. You're not important to her.

Does that answer your question?
 

VladPatton

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Two flakes I think is more than enough. Go crawling back to her and you are setting yourself up for disappointment, rejection, and mental anguish.

I'd be happy with one bang, let alone four. You made out alright.
 

Who Dares Win

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Its not so much a matter of pride but effectivness, a girl which flakes 4 times will surely flake a 5th and a 6th and so on...

Ok now if we talk about pure effectiveness just limit yourself to invite her to your place so even if she flakes nothing changes since you would have been there anyway, but if we have to introduce pride well yeah cut her short.

Its not so much a matter of pride but of quality of life, such hit to your pride or self confidence in the long run decrease your quality of life.

Sure it could be a push to improve yourself, given that such negativity is kicked out in reasonable time..
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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This is the same girl that you've started a few threads about right?

The girl who stood you up in epic fashion when you drove all the way over to her house only for her to text you that she hadn't gotten over her ex???

My question here is: WHY ARE YOU SURPRISED???

Think of it like a used car.

You wouldn't very well get your hopes up about a used 89 Buick with a history of transmissions problems, faulty breaks, broken power steering etc...

The instruments on that car are likely to DETERIORATE not get better.

Before you purchase a car like that, you better get it down to as low as you can, not be invested in it at all and basically get as much use out of it before you get your big promotion-- and a new upgrade.

Same thing applies with this girl man.

Again, I ask, why are you surprised???

Say next! For real this time.
 

spiegel549

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NewAndImproved said:
This is the same girl that you've started a few threads about right?

The girl who stood you up in epic fashion when you drove all the way over to her house only for her to text you that she hadn't gotten over her ex???

My question here is: WHY ARE YOU SURPRISED???

Think of it like a used car.

You wouldn't very well get your hopes up about a used 89 Buick with a history of transmissions problems, faulty breaks, broken power steering etc...

The instruments on that car are likely to DETERIORATE not get better.

Before you purchase a car like that, you better get it down to as low as you can, not be invested in it at all and basically get as much use out of it before you get your big promotion-- and a new upgrade.

Same thing applies with this girl man.

Again, I ask, why are you surprised???

Say next! For real this time.
Love that analogy :up:
 

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^^ motion passed.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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spiegel549

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LOL I love the bluntness. DONE. :up:


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