"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Having No Passion Hurts Me Deep.

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Well, if some of you recall, I just had a fling a month back which didn't work out. This is when I took a break from a relationship that almost lasted three years. Last night, we ended it officially.

I know how to act in these situations, because I've been through this and going crazy, crying, and over-reacting doesn't help at all. I just said "I respect your decision, good-bye."

Then I realized, I have nothing to fall back on. The only thing I'm going to carry everywhere is myself and I have NOTHING. That hurt me deeper than losing a three year old relationship.

My job is great from the outside. I'm a hairdressing educator, so it's fashionable and quite prestigious. It pays decently, but inside it's really just something that takes up very long hours and is mentally and physically exhausting.

These few months have taken it's toll as we have so many things to do, and more coming up. I'm not sure if this field is for me anymore. I don't look forward to work, which I think is bad.

I wish I could have a life to look forward to. Something that would jumpstart me from bed each day. I guess that would be too much to ask for, because I could sense most of you guys are searching for the answer as well.

Just needed to get that off. Good night.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Simple question; What are you into????
ask your self, what gets you going....hystory???? cars???? fasion???? fast bikes????

what have you always wanted to do, but you never did.
 

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Simple question; What are you into????
ask your self, what gets you going....hystory???? cars???? fasion???? fast bikes????

what have you always wanted to do, but you never did.
 

spider_007

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Simple question; What are you into????
ask your self, what gets you going....hystory???? cars???? fasion???? fast bikes????

what have you always wanted to do, but you never did.
 

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Thanks for the fast reply.

Problem is, my hobbies aren't really productive enough to earn a living, especially in an Asian country where choices are little.

I like gaming. I like martial arts. I'd like to be an Ultimate Fighter but so many countries don't have things like that. It's the only thing I can think of right now. Anything else doesn't turn me on.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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diu said:
Thanks for the fast reply.

Problem is, my hobbies aren't really productive enough to earn a living, especially in an Asian country where choices are little.

I like gaming. I like martial arts. I'd like to be an Ultimate Fighter but so many countries don't have things like that. It's the only thing I can think of right now. Anything else doesn't turn me on.
Some of the best hobbies aren't productive, they are just fun. Enjoy playing and let that joy permeate the rest of your life.
 

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I'm a hairdressing educator, so it's fashionable and quite prestigious. It pays decently, but inside it's really just something that takes up very long hours and is mentally and physically exhausting.

... I'm not sure if this field is for me anymore. I don't look forward to work, which I think is bad.

I wish I could have a life to look forward to. Something that would jumpstart me from bed each day.



Dude, don't you have like the perfect job? Are you not surrounded by attractive women all the time? It seems like most hairdressers are female, and they are for the most part an attractive group of women. Plus, you are the instructor, which is major social proof. And even better, the training is probably not that lengthy, right? This would mean that you frequently have an eager new cast of prospects.

So wtf are you complaining about? Don't you think the guys here who are computer programmers and engineers would love to be able to meet the women that you must meet through work? You have a skill that fascinates most women. They should flock to you.
 
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