"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Having No Passion Hurts Me Deep.

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Well, if some of you recall, I just had a fling a month back which didn't work out. This is when I took a break from a relationship that almost lasted three years. Last night, we ended it officially.

I know how to act in these situations, because I've been through this and going crazy, crying, and over-reacting doesn't help at all. I just said "I respect your decision, good-bye."

Then I realized, I have nothing to fall back on. The only thing I'm going to carry everywhere is myself and I have NOTHING. That hurt me deeper than losing a three year old relationship.

My job is great from the outside. I'm a hairdressing educator, so it's fashionable and quite prestigious. It pays decently, but inside it's really just something that takes up very long hours and is mentally and physically exhausting.

These few months have taken it's toll as we have so many things to do, and more coming up. I'm not sure if this field is for me anymore. I don't look forward to work, which I think is bad.

I wish I could have a life to look forward to. Something that would jumpstart me from bed each day. I guess that would be too much to ask for, because I could sense most of you guys are searching for the answer as well.

Just needed to get that off. Good night.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Simple question; What are you into????
ask your self, what gets you going....hystory???? cars???? fasion???? fast bikes????

what have you always wanted to do, but you never did.
 

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Simple question; What are you into????
ask your self, what gets you going....hystory???? cars???? fasion???? fast bikes????

what have you always wanted to do, but you never did.
 

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Simple question; What are you into????
ask your self, what gets you going....hystory???? cars???? fasion???? fast bikes????

what have you always wanted to do, but you never did.
 

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Thanks for the fast reply.

Problem is, my hobbies aren't really productive enough to earn a living, especially in an Asian country where choices are little.

I like gaming. I like martial arts. I'd like to be an Ultimate Fighter but so many countries don't have things like that. It's the only thing I can think of right now. Anything else doesn't turn me on.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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diu said:
Thanks for the fast reply.

Problem is, my hobbies aren't really productive enough to earn a living, especially in an Asian country where choices are little.

I like gaming. I like martial arts. I'd like to be an Ultimate Fighter but so many countries don't have things like that. It's the only thing I can think of right now. Anything else doesn't turn me on.
Some of the best hobbies aren't productive, they are just fun. Enjoy playing and let that joy permeate the rest of your life.
 

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I'm a hairdressing educator, so it's fashionable and quite prestigious. It pays decently, but inside it's really just something that takes up very long hours and is mentally and physically exhausting.

... I'm not sure if this field is for me anymore. I don't look forward to work, which I think is bad.

I wish I could have a life to look forward to. Something that would jumpstart me from bed each day.



Dude, don't you have like the perfect job? Are you not surrounded by attractive women all the time? It seems like most hairdressers are female, and they are for the most part an attractive group of women. Plus, you are the instructor, which is major social proof. And even better, the training is probably not that lengthy, right? This would mean that you frequently have an eager new cast of prospects.

So wtf are you complaining about? Don't you think the guys here who are computer programmers and engineers would love to be able to meet the women that you must meet through work? You have a skill that fascinates most women. They should flock to you.
 
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