"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Having more plates than male friends

Neon Owl

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I don't have many male friends as it is and due to issues with owing him money my best mate doesn't want to know anymore until I pay him back so for the past few weeks the only social life I've had has been meeting girls and staying over with them. This is a massive change to how I used to be where I didn't talk to women at all and only hung out with mates.
I'm sure this will help with confidence when it comes to dealing with women but am I hurting myself by missing out on male company?

Anyone else in the same position?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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corrector

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I don't know how you can go from one extreme like that to another extreme. So, how did you jump from a to z? Something snapped in your head and you just started meeting, talking to, staying over at girls and you are writing a thread on a pick up site worrying about not having any guys in your life?

I'm sure like everyone on here would like to be in that position. Why would you want to go back?
 

Fatal Jay

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you must be young, you will realize the older you get the few friends you have

I'm about to turn 27, and have one true friend in my life, everyone else is just people I smile and laugh with
 

visions

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Fatal Jay said:
you must be young, you will realize the older you get the few friends you have

I'm about to turn 27, and have one true friend in my life, everyone else is just people I smile and laugh with

exactly.
 

Neon Owl

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It happened when I got into my first relationship about 10 months ago. Before that I was a virgin...I had messed around with a couple of girls but was out of my element when it came to holding a conversation or flirting. Then during the relationship I started seeing my friends less and less and now since the breakup all I've been doing is pursuing women. In a way I'm doing it to try take my mind off my ex and it seems to be working so far, just realising I have other options is helping massively with missing her and my oneitis feelings.
Maybe I'm trying to make up for lost time I don't know...I've really got nothing else to do in my free time tbh besides hitting the gym and meeting women.
I didn't make this thread to boast or complain or anything I'm just wondering if this is healthy for me.
I definitely don't want to go back to how I was but it would be nice to have a guy friend to shoot the sh1t with to balance things out you know?

I'm 27 btw.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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doctorj

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find guys with common interests in your area, it's easier to make guy friends especially for DJs/PUAs. I made more male friends than I could know what to do by joining a local PUA community/lair. It's pretty good that share a lot of common interests too aside from getting girls.
 
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