"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Having more plates than male friends

Neon Owl

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I don't have many male friends as it is and due to issues with owing him money my best mate doesn't want to know anymore until I pay him back so for the past few weeks the only social life I've had has been meeting girls and staying over with them. This is a massive change to how I used to be where I didn't talk to women at all and only hung out with mates.
I'm sure this will help with confidence when it comes to dealing with women but am I hurting myself by missing out on male company?

Anyone else in the same position?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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corrector

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I don't know how you can go from one extreme like that to another extreme. So, how did you jump from a to z? Something snapped in your head and you just started meeting, talking to, staying over at girls and you are writing a thread on a pick up site worrying about not having any guys in your life?

I'm sure like everyone on here would like to be in that position. Why would you want to go back?
 

Fatal Jay

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you must be young, you will realize the older you get the few friends you have

I'm about to turn 27, and have one true friend in my life, everyone else is just people I smile and laugh with
 

visions

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Fatal Jay said:
you must be young, you will realize the older you get the few friends you have

I'm about to turn 27, and have one true friend in my life, everyone else is just people I smile and laugh with

exactly.
 

Neon Owl

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It happened when I got into my first relationship about 10 months ago. Before that I was a virgin...I had messed around with a couple of girls but was out of my element when it came to holding a conversation or flirting. Then during the relationship I started seeing my friends less and less and now since the breakup all I've been doing is pursuing women. In a way I'm doing it to try take my mind off my ex and it seems to be working so far, just realising I have other options is helping massively with missing her and my oneitis feelings.
Maybe I'm trying to make up for lost time I don't know...I've really got nothing else to do in my free time tbh besides hitting the gym and meeting women.
I didn't make this thread to boast or complain or anything I'm just wondering if this is healthy for me.
I definitely don't want to go back to how I was but it would be nice to have a guy friend to shoot the sh1t with to balance things out you know?

I'm 27 btw.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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doctorj

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find guys with common interests in your area, it's easier to make guy friends especially for DJs/PUAs. I made more male friends than I could know what to do by joining a local PUA community/lair. It's pretty good that share a lot of common interests too aside from getting girls.
 
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