"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Having more plates than male friends

Neon Owl

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I don't have many male friends as it is and due to issues with owing him money my best mate doesn't want to know anymore until I pay him back so for the past few weeks the only social life I've had has been meeting girls and staying over with them. This is a massive change to how I used to be where I didn't talk to women at all and only hung out with mates.
I'm sure this will help with confidence when it comes to dealing with women but am I hurting myself by missing out on male company?

Anyone else in the same position?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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corrector

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I don't know how you can go from one extreme like that to another extreme. So, how did you jump from a to z? Something snapped in your head and you just started meeting, talking to, staying over at girls and you are writing a thread on a pick up site worrying about not having any guys in your life?

I'm sure like everyone on here would like to be in that position. Why would you want to go back?
 

Fatal Jay

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you must be young, you will realize the older you get the few friends you have

I'm about to turn 27, and have one true friend in my life, everyone else is just people I smile and laugh with
 

visions

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Fatal Jay said:
you must be young, you will realize the older you get the few friends you have

I'm about to turn 27, and have one true friend in my life, everyone else is just people I smile and laugh with

exactly.
 

Neon Owl

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It happened when I got into my first relationship about 10 months ago. Before that I was a virgin...I had messed around with a couple of girls but was out of my element when it came to holding a conversation or flirting. Then during the relationship I started seeing my friends less and less and now since the breakup all I've been doing is pursuing women. In a way I'm doing it to try take my mind off my ex and it seems to be working so far, just realising I have other options is helping massively with missing her and my oneitis feelings.
Maybe I'm trying to make up for lost time I don't know...I've really got nothing else to do in my free time tbh besides hitting the gym and meeting women.
I didn't make this thread to boast or complain or anything I'm just wondering if this is healthy for me.
I definitely don't want to go back to how I was but it would be nice to have a guy friend to shoot the sh1t with to balance things out you know?

I'm 27 btw.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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doctorj

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find guys with common interests in your area, it's easier to make guy friends especially for DJs/PUAs. I made more male friends than I could know what to do by joining a local PUA community/lair. It's pretty good that share a lot of common interests too aside from getting girls.
 
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