"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Having many girl-friends as social proof:

Piers Nivens

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Is it always good to show this fact to a woman you are interested in

OR

can it backfire? (I.e. "omG, he is always around women, probably sleepa with every woman. I want a guy who doesnt hang so much with women, faithful etc")

How can we use them as social proof but make sure the girl of interest doesnt start thinking stupid ****?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I second what Tictac wrote, and he is right because why "show" them that (or other similar facts) as social proof? Imagine James Bond putting an effort into showing a gal he may be interested in that he is socially worthy... actually, he wouldn't; it would just come off naturally, and he really doesn't "go after" women anyway- they come to him. I'm not recommending to be James- I mean, who can, anyway?- but to learn from such a figure. No need to show her that as she would feel it.
 

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I didnt literally mean show, I meant her knowing getting to knowing etc, so whether I should hide the fact or not.
 

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using girl friends without a doubt works as social proof. it triggers the pre-selected attraction switch. just make sure those girls are being super flirty and touching you a lot. every girl in the bar will notice this. the trick with the girl you like is this, you must be congruent with the fact that lots of girls like you. by the way, this should be a normal everyday part of your bar game anyway.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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