"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Having many girl-friends as social proof:

Piers Nivens

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Is it always good to show this fact to a woman you are interested in

OR

can it backfire? (I.e. "omG, he is always around women, probably sleepa with every woman. I want a guy who doesnt hang so much with women, faithful etc")

How can we use them as social proof but make sure the girl of interest doesnt start thinking stupid ****?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I second what Tictac wrote, and he is right because why "show" them that (or other similar facts) as social proof? Imagine James Bond putting an effort into showing a gal he may be interested in that he is socially worthy... actually, he wouldn't; it would just come off naturally, and he really doesn't "go after" women anyway- they come to him. I'm not recommending to be James- I mean, who can, anyway?- but to learn from such a figure. No need to show her that as she would feel it.
 

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I didnt literally mean show, I meant her knowing getting to knowing etc, so whether I should hide the fact or not.
 

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using girl friends without a doubt works as social proof. it triggers the pre-selected attraction switch. just make sure those girls are being super flirty and touching you a lot. every girl in the bar will notice this. the trick with the girl you like is this, you must be congruent with the fact that lots of girls like you. by the way, this should be a normal everyday part of your bar game anyway.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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