"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Having many girl-friends as social proof:

Piers Nivens

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Is it always good to show this fact to a woman you are interested in

OR

can it backfire? (I.e. "omG, he is always around women, probably sleepa with every woman. I want a guy who doesnt hang so much with women, faithful etc")

How can we use them as social proof but make sure the girl of interest doesnt start thinking stupid ****?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I second what Tictac wrote, and he is right because why "show" them that (or other similar facts) as social proof? Imagine James Bond putting an effort into showing a gal he may be interested in that he is socially worthy... actually, he wouldn't; it would just come off naturally, and he really doesn't "go after" women anyway- they come to him. I'm not recommending to be James- I mean, who can, anyway?- but to learn from such a figure. No need to show her that as she would feel it.
 

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I didnt literally mean show, I meant her knowing getting to knowing etc, so whether I should hide the fact or not.
 

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using girl friends without a doubt works as social proof. it triggers the pre-selected attraction switch. just make sure those girls are being super flirty and touching you a lot. every girl in the bar will notice this. the trick with the girl you like is this, you must be congruent with the fact that lots of girls like you. by the way, this should be a normal everyday part of your bar game anyway.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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