She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
you only need a first chanceJPlaya said:I've never gotten a second chance to request a number.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
what if a meteor from outer space lands on top of the both of you, or a car runs off the road and runs you over?JPlaya said:what if she says I don't know you well enough or some **** like that
I'd just say "well here's your chance to get to know me better" as I hand my phone over to her. I don't know if that sounds corny or lame, but it's what I would come out with.JPlaya said:what if she says I don't know you well enough or some **** like that
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Definitely. Try something. You have nothing to lose.JPlaya said:My insecurity got to me.
With all due respect, you worry too much. Seriously. I blame the pickup artists for making guys believe that pickup is an exacting mission like launching the space shuttle. Most of this game just isn't that critical.
Today in class I met this hot girl and talked to her. Got to walk her back to her dorm and everything,
Excellent.
but I felt ugly because I have a huge zit on my nasal canal and was feeling dirty because I just worked out and I was in lazy clothes instead of my usual apparel.
I know what it's like to have a "bad face day." Besides, the occasional zit, I battle a much worse skin condition called ezcema. But one night when I thought I looked horrendous due to a breakout, I got a makeout from a 21 y/o redhead and had her sitting on my lap. (Don't worry it's not contagious lol.)
As for fresh out of the gym, some women get REALLY turned on by that, even if you are a little sweaty. It has a really masculine scent. I went to this restaurant once after leaving the gym, and this waitress kept checking me out. I was self-conscious because I thought I was smelly, but looking back, I should have number closed her.
Of course, time permitting, you should do as much as you can to be clean and presentable. But sometimes, you get opportunities that you weren't expecting and just have to just go with it regardless of your clothes, face, etc.
I'll be more prepared next time. She sits right next to me in class, so it shouldn't be hard.