"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Having a really bad problem talking to girls
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
you only need a first chanceJPlaya said:
if you are approaching women and talking to them for 4 or 5 minutes and not requesting their phone numbers right then, you are failing
you don't need her permission to request her phone number. just hand her your phone and tell her to punch her number in. or go old school like me and hand her a pad and a pen and direct her to "write her number down"
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
what if a meteor from outer space lands on top of the both of you, or a car runs off the road and runs you over?JPlaya said:
just give up now if you are going to live your life based on "what if?"
or maybe we can live our life based on "what if":
What if she enthusiastically agrees, writes her number down, you take her on a date, she loves it and eventually loves you and you have a relationship with a great girl?
perseverance
Guest
I'd just say "well here's your chance to get to know me better" as I hand my phone over to her. I don't know if that sounds corny or lame, but it's what I would come out with.JPlaya said:
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Definitely. Try something. You have nothing to lose.JPlaya said:
This last part is off-topic but related to the "out of the gym" thing. When you do get laid, don't even shower right after. Throw your (wrinkled lol) clothes back on and return to the bar or club that same night if you can. I did that once after a quick lay and go mad eye contact, and a makeout. I could have easily gotten a second pull, but I was too tired to pursue it. My confidence was through the roof, and I swear they could just smell s*x on me lol. It's a fun experiment if they're still open.