Just in case you don't know what a red light green light party is it's a party where you wear different colors (like glow sticks) depending on your relationship status. Green for single and wanting to hook up, yellow for maybe wanting to hook up, and red for in a relationship and not wanting to hook up. If you've been to one what did you think? I'm thinking about going to one on the weekend at this club but since I've never been to one before I was wondering if they're any fun. Thanks.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Have you guys been to a red light green light party? What did you think?
- Thread starter Kal0051
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Furyguy
Senior Don Juan
Never been to one either but I've been thinking about it.
If I went I would almost definitely wear red regardless of my actual relationship status since I bet red dudes would be more successful anyways.
Go try it out and see how it is. Hit on all the different colors and let me know who responds best
If I went I would almost definitely wear red regardless of my actual relationship status since I bet red dudes would be more successful anyways.
Go try it out and see how it is. Hit on all the different colors and let me know who responds best
Not sure why you think guys wearing red would be more successful. Unless the girls were just after a fvck and don't might getting with a guy in a relationship. I'd think yellow would be better, at least then you don't look like your only there to find someone to fvck, but that's just my opinion.
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
Green guys should be some horny bastards
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Furyguy
Senior Don Juan
Because before you even start the conversation you are already presumably:
A) Already successful with girls
B) Not interested in her
C) Not there just to hit on / pick her up
Which are three good things to have going in your favor.
And then when the time comes around that they're into you but worried you're in a relationship, it's just "Oh, I thought the whole red/green idea was stupid... this was the only shirt I had clean anyways." or some such.
My logic anyways.
Roy
Don Juan
Its called a 'traffic light' party. . . Yeah they have them in the uk, its quite popular with the university student parties.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.