Just in case you don't know what a red light green light party is it's a party where you wear different colors (like glow sticks) depending on your relationship status. Green for single and wanting to hook up, yellow for maybe wanting to hook up, and red for in a relationship and not wanting to hook up. If you've been to one what did you think? I'm thinking about going to one on the weekend at this club but since I've never been to one before I was wondering if they're any fun. Thanks.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Have you guys been to a red light green light party? What did you think?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Furyguy
Senior Don Juan
Never been to one either but I've been thinking about it.
If I went I would almost definitely wear red regardless of my actual relationship status since I bet red dudes would be more successful anyways.
Go try it out and see how it is. Hit on all the different colors and let me know who responds best
If I went I would almost definitely wear red regardless of my actual relationship status since I bet red dudes would be more successful anyways.
Go try it out and see how it is. Hit on all the different colors and let me know who responds best
Not sure why you think guys wearing red would be more successful. Unless the girls were just after a fvck and don't might getting with a guy in a relationship. I'd think yellow would be better, at least then you don't look like your only there to find someone to fvck, but that's just my opinion.
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
Green guys should be some horny bastards
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Furyguy
Senior Don Juan
Because before you even start the conversation you are already presumably:
A) Already successful with girls
B) Not interested in her
C) Not there just to hit on / pick her up
Which are three good things to have going in your favor.
And then when the time comes around that they're into you but worried you're in a relationship, it's just "Oh, I thought the whole red/green idea was stupid... this was the only shirt I had clean anyways." or some such.
My logic anyways.
Roy
Don Juan
Its called a 'traffic light' party. . . Yeah they have them in the uk, its quite popular with the university student parties.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.